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    Default How do Delta types go about "settling down"?

    I'm curious how each of the Delta types go about setting down.

    I have an INFj friend with a new baby and it seems to me she'll probably be sitting on her living room floor with this child for probably the rest of her life. I don't think she's seen the sky in a while. This idea scares me.

    Is this why ENFps and ISTps go together? Because we'd rather like, take the baby around the world (like Angelina Jolie does?)

    I'm also wondering which types are most afraid of setting down.

    Input please.
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    my type.
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    Quote Originally Posted by implied View Post
    my type.
    And what is your type?
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    the consensus lately is INTp but ISTp has also been suggested. this could just be a "me" thing, but i pretty much share your sentiment. the idea of settling down is some weirdly ambivalent topic for me.
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    I don't want to have kids mostly because most of the women I've come across want someone they can boss around or are utterly CRAZY.

    That and I hate being tied down to anything.
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    I'm very afraid of settling down but at the same time, I really like the idea of having security and knowing everything is "all right" and "secure". The odd thing is that when I do settle down for the time being, I have the urge to pick up and go and change everything and break free from it. I don't think I could ever actually settle down for good...I think that's when you've officially died a little inside.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    I'm very afraid of settling down but at the same time, I really like the idea of having security and knowing everything is "all right" and "secure". The odd thing is that when I do settle down for the time being, I have the urge to pick up and go and change everything and break free from it. I don't think I could ever actually settle down for good...I think that's when you've officially died a little inside.
    yeah, i know what you mean. heh. i love and hate the idea of the security that comes with being "settled."
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    I think for us the idea of 'settling down' is other's idea of 'horribly unstable'.

    Well I say fuck everyone else. Jewels, let's run away.
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    Eh - I thought Deltas were about picket fences and aboveground swimming pools and so forth. :-P
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    sigh. Glad it's not just me.

    Implied, you sound kinda ISTp maybe? At least, you share the fear of committment

    Jem...I think the picket fence/swimming pool thing is the ESTj and INFjs...and wow do they do a great job with it. They build such amazing lives it makes me consider settling at times! But then I remember that I lack their patience (well, at least the INFj's patience).

    Okay LVG, where shall we run away? Europe? Some random country? Whatever works. Let's all go and build up some unstable lives, only to then move somewhere else. Sound good? We can gather up all the ISTps and ENFps and go LOL.

    I guess it's not really "unstable" as long as you have somewhere to live for the time being, and enough money to buy stuff.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jewels View Post
    Jem...I think the picket fence/swimming pool thing is the ESTj and INFjs...and wow do they do a great job with it. They build such amazing lives it makes me consider settling at times! But then I remember that I lack their patience (well, at least the INFj's patience).
    My friend is ESTj and I can totally see him settling down for a white picket fence and nice car yadda yadda. I'm just like "hey man whatever makes you happy"

    Okay LVG, where shall we run away? Europe? Some random country? Whatever works. Let's all go and build up some unstable lives, only to then move somewhere else. Sound good? We can gather up all the ISTps and ENFps and go LOL.
    Hrm, go first you mean? Europe would be an easy starting point since you can go from there, then travel to Asia and then Africa without to much fuss then kind of do a clockwise travel to end up in the states. the hell with canada.

    I guess it's not really "unstable" as long as you have somewhere to live for the time being, and enough money to buy stuff.
    You know, I don't consider it unstable either if you continue to love each other throughout.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jewels View Post
    sigh. Glad it's not just me.
    Let's all go and build up some unstable lives, only to then move somewhere else. Sound good? We can gather up all the ISTps and ENFps and go LOL.
    Oooohhh, that sounds fun. I'm in!

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    Quote Originally Posted by LokiVanguard View Post
    You know, I don't consider it unstable either if you continue to love each other throughout.
    You describe my sentiments exactly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jewels View Post
    Okay LVG, where shall we run away? Europe? Some random country? Whatever works. Let's all go and build up some unstable lives, only to then move somewhere else. Sound good? We can gather up all the ISTps and ENFps and go LOL.
    *raises hand* I am in.
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    <3 ENFp's/ISTp's!!!!!! How cool are we!

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    Meh. I think when you meet the right sort of person you're not going to care whether you're 'settled.' You won't give a damn that you just spent the past month cuddling your baby (You'll probably be so tired you can't do anything else anyway, hahahhaha) I think if you want your life a certain way you have the power to make it that way. Your significant other is your partner, not your chain. I have a commitmentphobic side, but that's only b/c I'm reacting to the stereotype of being 'settled'... it depends on my mood.

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    Quote Originally Posted by qbsirena06 View Post
    <3 ENFp's/ISTp's!!!!!! How cool are we!
    We are rather warm actually.
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
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    Quote Originally Posted by Winterpark View Post
    We are rather warm actually.
    More like a perfect balance of warm/cool.

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    Quote Originally Posted by qbsirena06 View Post
    <3 ENFp's/ISTp's!!!!!! How cool are we!
    Just don't forget to bring that blueberry pie...uh...q...si....what's your face.

    Quote Originally Posted by tiny_dancer View Post
    Meh. I think when you meet the right sort of person you're not going to care whether you're 'settled.' You won't give a damn that you just spent the past month cuddling your baby (You'll probably be so tired you can't do anything else anyway, hahahhaha) I think if you want your life a certain way you have the power to make it that way. Your significant other is your partner, not your chain. I have a commitmentphobic side, but that's only b/c I'm reacting to the stereotype of being 'settled'... it depends on my mood.
    Of course you have the power to make it that way. It's just that certain types get in my fucking way!
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    Quote Originally Posted by LokiVanguard View Post
    Of course you have the power to make it that way. It's just that certain types get in my fucking way!
    Hahaha, so true...

    Quote Originally Posted by tiny_dancer View Post
    I have a commitmentphobic side...
    Me too...
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    Hey, you guys forgot South America. I really wanna see Macchu Picchu. And llamas. I <3 llamas.

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    Hey I included it, we'd start at the tip of southern america. I'd look a bit like a culture abandoner if I didn't include my own


    That and cmon.... tacos.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tiny_dancer View Post
    Hey, you guys forgot South America. I really wanna see Macchu Picchu. And llamas. I <3 llamas.
    Oh yeah, definitely. Macchu Picchu is a must! No worries. You want llamas, we'll get llamas. I, for one, <3 monkeys. So...

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    I want to hit a pińata.
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jewels View Post
    I guess it's not really "unstable" as long as you have somewhere to live for the time being, and enough money to buy stuff.
    See, that's where the ENTp/ISFp combo win on the whole 'unstable' living thing. Money, place to live - pfft - who needs those if you're together? :-)
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    Oh.. oops.. there I go not reading everything again. Okay, llamas, check, monkeys, check... I'm gonna contribute my special talent: I'll take you sailing around the Carribbean when we wind our way back here...

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    Quote Originally Posted by qbsirena06 View Post
    You want llamas, we'll get llamas. I, for one, <3 monkeys. So...
    She wants to see a llama not to ride one, geez... and monkeys are everywhere girl, not sure what's your point...
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    Well... CAN you ride the llamas? 'Cause if that's an option, I'll take it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by tiny_dancer View Post
    Oh.. oops.. there I go not reading everything again. Okay, llamas, check, monkeys, check... I'm gonna contribute my special talent: I'll take you sailing around the Carribbean when we wind our way back here...
    Ok great, you take care of the checklist, I'm not very good at that. In the meantime, I'll think really hard of any special talents I may be able to contribute. (besides blueberry pies, of course).

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    Now I really want to do this.

    You guys suck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tiny_dancer View Post
    Well... CAN you ride the llamas? 'Cause if that's an option, I'll take it...
    If anyone can make it happen, it's us.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by tiny_dancer View Post
    Well... CAN you ride the llamas? 'Cause if that's an option, I'll take it...
    You wanna ride me, eh? Ok, jump on me and see what happens...
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    lol! Waaaaait a minute... is this one of those times where the SLI is just waiting for the IEE to make a fool out of themselves...? trust the dual? ...or not trust the dual...

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    Quote Originally Posted by LokiVanguard View Post
    My friend is ESTj and I can totally see him settling down for a white picket fence and nice car yadda yadda. I'm just like "hey man whatever makes you happy"



    Hrm, go first you mean? Europe would be an easy starting point since you can go from there, then travel to Asia and then Africa without to much fuss then kind of do a clockwise travel to end up in the states. the hell with canada.



    You know, I don't consider it unstable either if you continue to love each other throughout.
    i agree with you guys about this. i moved away from home 2000 miles and was ready to travel wherever the winds took me, seeing all kinds of places. the idea of sitting and watching tv every night after working freaked me out. i wanted to go and do and see and live!

    and then i fell in love. he lived here and wasn't going anywhere. so, i stayed and we've built a "stable" life together. and it's true, our love is what keeps us stable wherever we are, whatever we're doing. because we don't "look" stable to a lot of people.

    i miss being able to go and do more things....but i know as our kids get older we will. i guess the stability of their emotional selves is more important to me as they are littler.

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    Quote Originally Posted by qbsirena06 View Post
    If anyone can make it happen, it's us.....
    Yeah, it would be a dream come true... riding the llamma... no one has done it before... we will get into the guinness book of records!
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

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    Quote Originally Posted by tiny_dancer View Post
    lol! Waaaaait a minute... is this one of those times where the SLI is just waiting for the IEE to make a fool out of themselves...? trust the dual? ...or not trust the dual...
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    LOL....of course the SLI would provide the pictures. I like the hair bows on that llama. Very feminine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LokiVanguard View Post
    Yo, what's that melody bro? Sounds cool...
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winterpark View Post
    You wanna ride me, eh? Ok, jump on me and see what happens...
    we've got llamas ride down the street from our house....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winterpark View Post
    Yo, what's that melody bro? Sounds cool...
    "Candy Girl"
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