she has lived a long life but the crux of her personality has stayed the same. i've known her for almost 20 yrs and probably know her better than she knows herself.
she doesn't know herself because she has always believed that societies ideas, especially ones from "experts," are the ones that know best. she has always been very elitist and class conscious and very much to the extreme about it. to the point of "eating pizza" is for lower class citizens and she has gone on and on about who has what job and rank in society with all of her relatives and friends.
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she was a school teacher but wanted to be a doctor. she sees children as "clean slates" that she needs to forcefeed info, knowledge and ways of behaving that coincide with societies ways. even though she got all the way to writing her dissertation for her Phd, she doesn't actually believe that people are individuals with individual potentials and characteristics. she knows a lot of psychology and education stuff but is not good at applying it irl.
she is very much into history and it's cultural significance on and in the world. she has many "things" that remind her of some kind of cultural history.
overall, a melancholic type. prone to believing people are not able to handle life's problems. "the poor mexicans." etc...
because of this, she did a lot of missionary style stuff with poor mexicans and american indian children. she took her own children with her on many of these expeditions. kind of social worker like. as well as advocacy and doing "sit ins" in the 60's.
she also traveled back to England and all over the world every summer and took her kids with her to teach them about other cultures. anything less would be "low class." especially the fact that her son is heavily into sports.
she has a strong will with what she believes is right. very independent. but not a strong physical will. very hesitant with her physical movement of her body. but will grab a child's hand to show them something she deems important for them to know whether they want to or not.
she is very naive in understanding that anyone could ever do anything that was not morally correct. very naive about this. so much so that she has numerous cons take advantage of her and one for many years (we finallly put a stop to it).
she is of the mindset of peace over war, no matter who or what is happening in the world. she lived through ww11 and knew many who died. but also sees how the "other side" are victims needing "help."
she has been the BIGGEST spendthrift you'll ever come across. to the point of plugging her sink drain to catch the couple of drops of water to use later. and never, ever, ever would or did buy anything new for herself. garage sales or she used things until they fell apart and still used them. somewhere in her psyche she believes she doesn't deserve anything. that also includes pain relief. she is in a lot of pain right now and will NOT take anything, anything for it at all. and when i say in a lot of pain, whatever is going on may be the thing that kills her, literally.
as far as sex, she's not been a sexual person. she use to see sex with her husband more as her wife duty.
now that dementia has kicked in and we are taking care of her, she is content to stay in her bedroom, read the newspaper and nonfiction mysteries all day. she has one old friend that comes to visit maybe once a week. oh and she has never really cared for pets or having pets inside the house. the things that she "expects" us to do and take care of that she can't are keeping a clean house (very clean, nothing out of it's place), being productive with our actions, taking care of her plants and trees in the backyard and being quiet.
i have mostly seen her as INFj, but with my own understanding of the difference between Beta NF and Delta NF changing, I am not sure if she could be INFp instead. Whatch'all think?