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    Lightbulb Your top 10 rates in a partner.

    Ok, brought to you in no specific order- and now it's your turn! Let's see what each type's response is. Here's me.

    1. Adventure
    2. Positive attitude
    3. Inspiring (motivational)
    4. Romantic
    5. Committed
    6. Non-judgemental
    7. Ethical
    8. Intelligent
    9. Compassionate
    10. Funny/witty

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    Sorry, bee.

    I don't really agree in relationship prerequisites.

    However for the sakes of contribution and to refrain this from being a thread deflating post, I present my few dislikes in a partner.

    In no particular order.

    Conformism
    Bitter
    Pretentious
    Weak
    Cold

    There's a few anyway. I hope this doesn't put a downer on the thread but it may offer insight to INFp.

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    I think it's great to identify what you want (and not just in a partner, but in all aspects of life). The clearer you are, the better. I'll make a list in a bit.
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    1. Loyal/Honest
    2. Introverted (socially)
    3. Growth seeking (in terms of wellness)
    4. Fun
    5. Intelligent
    6. Wise
    7. Secure
    8. Stable/steady/balanced
    9. Not sure how to sum this up in a word, but basically "takes care of the day to day shit that I'm bad at taking care of"
    10. Attractive (to me)

    2 through 9 are in random order
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    Uhhh, this may take some thought.

    1. Inspiring/Intelligent
    2. Mutual Attraction
    3. Independent
    4. Adventurous/Spontaneous/Playful
    5. Similar values (Loyalty, Sense of Family, etc)
    6. Goals/Ambition
    7. Romantic
    8. Sense of Organization (Totally hot to me, I don't know why...)
    9. Witty/Clever
    10. Mutual Interests

    Seems about right.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mn0good View Post
    2. Mutual Attraction
    lol good point
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    Quote Originally Posted by Diana View Post
    non-flirtatious with others
    That's essentially what I meant by "introverted (socially)".

    At any rate I don't see myself getting involved with anyone any time soon. Perhaps ever.
    I think you will. You're probably just not ready yet.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Saturn View Post
    Sorry, bee.

    I don't really agree in relationship prerequisites.

    However for the sakes of contribution and to refrain this from being a thread deflating post, I present my few dislikes in a partner.

    In no particular order.

    Conformism
    Bitter
    Pretentious
    Weak
    Cold

    There's a few anyway. I hope this doesn't put a downer on the thread but it may offer insight to INFp.
    I agree. I know objectively that it's a good idea to make a list or whatever (for anything in life) but I detest doing it. I prefer to remain open to the possibilities (that is, if I were single but also applying this to other areas of life and yes that often will mean never getting anywhere because you're not sure where you're going and the act of "remaining open" is restricting you to never do anything). I agree with this list of dislikes also.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Saturn View Post
    Sorry, bee.
    I don't really agree in relationship prerequisites.
    Yeah. As long as she's not a psycho, boring or a tramp i'm fine.
    "Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."

    - Voltaire

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    Quote Originally Posted by LokiVanguard View Post
    Yeah. As long as she's not a psycho, boring or a tramp i'm fine.
    boring is the worst!
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    boring is the worst!
    I agree.
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

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    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Diana View Post
    What if she's ugly, doesn't bathe and lies to you?
    then she's psycho. Did you miss that part of my post?
    "Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by LokiVanguard View Post
    then she's psycho. Did you miss that part of my post?
    hahahaha, I was just gonna say the exact same thing....
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Diana View Post
    LOL. K.
    "Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."

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    likes me back???
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    Hmm, here goes:

    1. Assertive
    2. Outgoing/Engaging
    3. Down-to-earth
    4. Funny
    5. Creative
    6. Open-minded
    7. Kind-hearted
    8. Devoted
    9. Active
    10. Mutual attraction/interests/values

    I can think of a few other things which could have made the list, but they're less character-related.
    Moonlight will fall
    Winter will end
    Harvest will come
    Your heart will mend

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    Hmmmnnn:

    1. Warm
    2. Kind
    3. Deep
    4. Fun
    5. Creative
    6. Intelligent
    7. Attractive
    8. Compassionate
    9. Loyal
    10. Assertive

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    Quote Originally Posted by reckoner View Post
    Hmmmnnn:

    1. Warm
    2. Kind
    3. Deep
    4. Fun
    5. Creative
    6. Intelligent
    7. Attractive
    8. Compassionate
    9. Loyal
    10. Assertive
    Pff, too vague. What the hell does "assertive" mean, anyway? I say we limit it to 1.
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    not to be a total INTj but what is a rate. You mean characteristics that we can rate others by?it will change my answers.

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    -likes intelligent discussions
    -good self-esteem
    -appreciates good music and aesthetics
    -honest
    -sympathetic
    -witty
    -creative
    -non-conformist
    -non-aggressive
    -non-idiot (10 is too many!)
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    Quote Originally Posted by thehotelambush View Post
    Pff, too vague. What the hell does "assertive" mean, anyway? I say we limit it to 1.
    Are you messing around?
    Moonlight will fall
    Winter will end
    Harvest will come
    Your heart will mend

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    also too many for me... but what do you know i agree with maria

    My partner must:

    1. Like me
    2. tolerate me
    3. be involved with music somehow (share this interest)
    4. share a mutual attraction

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    Kind of off the top of my head:


    1. Socionics compatibility.
    2. Must value and practice the same or similar things as I do. In particular: Intellectual enlightenment, pre 1960s standards of conduct (including fidelity), religion, etc.
    3. Being good at what I suck at. I suck at Fe and S.

    4. Using her complementary skills to help me being her husband, rather than playing an ego game. Like f.i. using them to improve my business.
    5. Reasonable intelligence level, I don't want stupidities like an interrogation as to why I look repeatedly into the cupboard while I'm planning dinner.
    6. Giving me space - I don't want to be smothered or forced to live someone else's life.

    7. Wifey - keeping everything nice, clean and cozy.
    8. Able and willing to love, honor and obey.
    9. Reasonably healthy mentally and physically.

    10. Reasonable level of mutual attraction.
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    Quote Originally Posted by munenori2 View Post
    Are you messing around?
    No.

    2 might be reasonable, but I honestly don't think I can even come up with 10, except of the form "compatible in X". I'll come up with some in a bit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jem View Post
    -non-idiot
    hmm yes, that would be good

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    This comic pretty much sums it up:

    "Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."

    - Voltaire

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    hmm...this is hard.

    1. Wants a relationship (not a fling)
    2. Kind
    3. Intelligent
    4. Not afraid to open up and trust (eventually)
    5. Strong mentally and takes action easily
    6. Quiet, but talks to me sometimes
    7. Stable, but open to adventure
    8. Flexible in allowing me to live my life/have adventures/open to moving random places
    9. Not a conformist and values all humans without being pretentious
    10. Be completely happy to be in the relatioship w/ me and me with him (equal partnership thing)
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    1. Fun, easygoing
    2. Passionate, ambitious (has big dreams & intense interests and pursues them)
    3. Intelligent, intellectual (interested in talking about intellectual things)
    4. Similar sense of humor
    5. Physically confident, sensual
    6. Not flirty (I get jealous easily)
    7. Not pretentious
    8. Not self-deprecating
    9. Attentive (goes with #6)
    10. Active (someone who is always doing something)

    Plus basic human-decency sort of things. And attraction is always a pre-requisite.
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    Booty
    tits
    face
    nuff said
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    1. Mutual attraction
    2. Ambitious
    3. Loyal
    4. Trustworthy
    5. Older (or wise)
    5. Intelligent
    6. Passionate (in every sense)
    7. Feminine
    8. Protective
    9. Masculine
    10. Attractive to me
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    Booty
    tits
    face
    nuff said
    That's my top 3 as well, yeah...
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

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    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jewels View Post
    6. Quiet, but talks to me sometimes
    I like this one.
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    10 requirements? I could never think of that many. If i like you, i like you...not because you fit 9 out of the 10 requirements. Some people just fit with you and it can't be explained. Making a list would only cloud my view of a person and be extremely limiting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    10 requirements? I could never think of that many. If i like you, i like you...not because you fit 9 out of the 10 requirements. Some people just fit with you and it can't be explained. Making a list would only cloud my view of a person and be extremely limiting.
    yes!
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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    10 requirements? I could never think of that many. If i like you, i like you...not because you fit 9 out of the 10 requirements. Some people just fit with you and it can't be explained. Making a list would only cloud my view of a person and be extremely limiting.
    +1

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    Looking at the lists all of you have made, the person you have in mind are too perfect to exist if you are looking for someone with the overall package. Anyway, it's still good for everyone of us to have hope in life.

    Here is my list:

    1. individualistic
    2. kind
    3. talkative and outgoing because I don't talk much and can be kind of shy
    4. athletic so that our future children wouldn't be klutzes
    5. independent
    6. open-minded yet conservative in some aspects
    7. not too unpredictable and insane
    8. mutual attraction
    9. passionate
    10. believe in working and playing hard. Not too frivolous.

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