Hi, dbmamma. For the record, I like your attitude; it is cool.
Also, I agree with Phaedrus, but he is saying it in a completely stupid and unhelpful way.
What you say is consistent with what my EII best friend says about how she sees the world. We are very alike in that way--both ethicals, both intuitives. We also are both very spiritual and moral. Actually--this is odd--but the way you are discribing your understanding of Socionics is very similar to how her understanding
developed as she waded through it. I notice how our understandings develop differently (although many of our thoughts actually line up) because a preference for
over
. Oh, we also share all the same faults--lol--because we are both "bad" at sensing. Like, always losing our keys and stuff lol. I just notice she "listens" more when people give her instructions and all that "self help" stuff of how to run your life--she just inhales it! I kind of admire her for that actually, because it gets the job done (even if I myself wouldn't so much do it). ^_^ The same thing with my good IEE friend--she is just wonderful with duly consulting that self-help stuff.
You don't say anything that solidifies you as ENFj for me (I am open minded ), but what you say is generally of the "spirit" of my good EII friend. ^_^ My IEE friend as well is pretty cool and spiritual and friendly and I look up to her alot. So I can see how, if you were that
cool kind of EII/IEE, NiFes like me would like you and want to be like you and with you
--I certainly do with mine.
I have had lots of good experiences with EII/IEE who share my passion for possibilities, intellectualism, knowledge, spirituality, good living, etc.
It's also incredibly interesting how you were talking about how you liked
JuJu's energy
here. My EII has always had this incredibly odd (to me) attraction to guys with the exact same energy--and I don't know why! Lol, I don't know what it is that makes her like that kind of guy, like, with that intensity! I want to know what it is! lol ^_^ And like the way you compliment him about it--omg--she talks like with the same, impressionistic sweetness.
I think its so cute but I'm like..."what do you see in him?" lol I guess its just that
preference that activates her rather than me. I mean, if he IS an IEE, then I can identify. As a NiFe, I think I have the same reaction to alot of FeNi; I've often described my attraction to their personalities just like you were about JuJu's further down on that thread. I've usually found them very attractive and their energy activating--we are in the same quadra and value the same things. I've often found that irl ppl are attracted to those types of their same judging method more often than even their duals, atleast right off the bat (i.e., ethicals to ethicals, logicals to logicals). Semi-dual relationships, for instance, are common, and, for me, attraction to mirrors is just as common. Just thought I'd mention.
And, I mean, if you were a NeFi finding the energy of another NeFi activating, i mean, I can feel that way with people of my own type very strongly in certain cases. The thing is all about them stimulating your information preferences; you have four, whatever they are. If you can figure out what area your sense of activation is coming from, maybe you can figure out your type.
Like I said, you
could still be ENFj, but as I haven't met you or seen some sort of...visual+audio presentation, I don't see Ne+Fi as necessarily ruled out yet.