Most every relationship I've formed wasn't initiated by me or even arranged by me... usually I just end up with certain people in a certain situation... or others initiate or start the relationship. In fact it can be very awkward when with someone who is as non-initiating as me because neither of us initiate and so we don't do anything at all, but we know one of us needs to do it... so eventually one of us will try to. I'm not sure why I "need" the other person to initiate. Maybe it orients me in the relationship, or gives me a bearing in terms of direction. And often times I don't care what we do anyway, that's not the point... I just want to spend time with the other person.
Anyway I feel a lot more comfortable when the other person initiates and is decisive... because it takes all the pressure/stress/uncertainty off of me. I also generally prefer one-on-one interaction (or smaller groups) because it's more close, personable, and intimate. In group interaction I pretty much never initiate... some extroverts can just get an entire group moving in a certain direction and this feels strange to me... if I try to do that it comes off sounding uncertain, wishy washy, etc. I considered practicing more... except I don't want to.
But I don't want to put all the pressure on extroverts to be the initiators... and this is something that's kind of bothered me... I try to fill in where the extrovert doesn't feel like initiating and help out. But I worry that it all gets put on them all the time in most of their relationships and maybe it gets tiring. Maybe they get sick of initiating all the time. Sometimes I can initiate on a whim in one-on-one interactions if I feel suddenly inspired to do so. And so I try to do that when it arises. But I've also noticed a timing difference. Extroverts often initiate more quickly and automatically... and so they may often beat introverts to the punch.
I was wondering if any of "you extroverts" feel like you have to initiate too much or if it becomes a strain? I was also wondering why you are naturally an initiator (if you are) or what that's like. Is it something you like doing, or is it just something you feel you have to do (because others don't), or what? Do you find interactions between other extroverts and yourself to be competitive?
And I was wondering why introverts don't feel as comfortable initiating, mainly from the subjective point of view of introverts here...
But I'm happy with most forms of topic tangents or really any way you want to frame a response or anything you want to say.