One of the biggest difficulties I'm having is understanding the difference between someone's HA and PoLR. I think I have the basic properties of each one down:
-weak, unvalued, and conscious
-has trouble accepting help from others in this area
-weak, valued, and unconscious
-willingly accepts help in this area
However, I'm having a lot of trouble identifying in real life the differences between the two, both in myself and in others. Distinguishing them seems subtle, and I think this is probably made even worse by the fact that my own understanding of / is (obviously) my weakest area, making the differentiation of my own PoLR/HA even more impossible.
It seems to me that both the 4th and 6th functions are weak areas that the person would like to improve in. It also seems that at different times, the person may "think" they are competent in both of these, and success in either is very rewarding, and failure in either is very painful.
How can I get better at telling the difference? Both general ideas and specific distinctions of the HA/PoLR's of various types would help me out.