Out of curiousity, how would you Betas characterize an ideal/good relationship? What is important to have/avoid? What kind of activities/traits/etc are most desirable?
Out of curiousity, how would you Betas characterize an ideal/good relationship? What is important to have/avoid? What kind of activities/traits/etc are most desirable?
Moonlight will fall
Winter will end
Harvest will come
Your heart will mend
Wet!
LSI
Wet is good.
INFp
If your sea chart does not match reality, go with reality (Old mariner saying)
passion, aggressiveness, competitiveness, intellectual stimulation....
I'm not so sure that ideal relationships differ too much from quadra to quadra
Emotional maturity is required for a successful relationship.
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
competition with a touch of aggressiveness is great...so long as it is positive in tone and not taken too seriously. in fact amend that to say that at least some competition is essential.
but then, I'm not Beta ;- P
ILI
¿Qué es la vida? Un frenesí.
¿Qué es la vida? Una ilusión;
una sombra, una ficción
y el mayor bien es pequeño.
¡Que toda la vida es sueño
y los sueños, sueños son!
Well I'm beta and I definitely wouldn't put competition and aggressiveness on my list of must-haves for a relationship.
IEI-Fe 4w3
yeah, it's not like I would expect a fiery relationship between an SLI and IEE; it's just that I think that there are certain traits all people look for in a relationship that are outside the sandbox of socionics.Originally Posted by Expat
An ideal relationship would be one where I feel part of a team. We get support from one another to pursue our own goals. Why should I be in a relationship if it doesn't enable me to become a better version of myself? Honesty, loyalty and equality is essential.
Lefty
ENFJ
"I'm Sick of Old Men Dreaming Up Wars for Young Men To Die In," George McGovern.
istjs are angels cast over a devilish interior i think you can spot it coming through, too ...it explains the arched eyebrows they often posess.
I dont think compeitiion is fun i'd leave that up to another couple than istjs and enfjs but ...yeah im not interested in competing with a mate...or whatever you want to call it lol ...
all i know is im really preoccupied by the aspect of istjs that asserts itself.
this probably all goes back to the good top bad top topic that everyone passed up on becasue it was too taboo...an infp wants a "good top" and an ENFJ the opposite.
Lefty
ENFJ
"I'm Sick of Old Men Dreaming Up Wars for Young Men To Die In," George McGovern.
My ideal relationship is to be able to actually have a good conversation even if its the dumbest thing. I need a mature, stable guy who is confident with what he wants. I also needs someone who is loyal and someone who can understand me. I can't stand any guy who is around me constantly. I wouldn't want to be around that person constantly. I need a guy who is adventurous, funny, smart guy who is really athletic.
ENFj Ni subtype 3w4
"And once you lose your way you have two choices. Find the person you used to be or lose that person completely"
formerly onetreehilluver
i know what you mean. i love it when a man either understands social referances...expands my understanding of things in terms of history or geography...or even if its more affectionate and there's just mutual understanding or a shared humor. I love those things, too.
And by saying I like the part of them that asserts itself I do mean, too, as youre saying the kind of utilitarian and independant part of them...They are stern and caring but also very independant and sometimes cranky (can be adorable or a nightmare depending on the person.
these days ive found myself kind of being into married men...sure everyone can freak about the morality of it...but ive started to wonder what it means about my own fear of commitment...a married man will always only need me so much (kind of in referance to not wanting them to be around all the time as you stated).
Lefty
ENFJ
"I'm Sick of Old Men Dreaming Up Wars for Young Men To Die In," George McGovern.