Extraversion and Feeling -- the first dimension is rather obvious, the second very likely. Also working out a lot, enjoying sex, and playing with kids are perfectly in line with ESFj. And maybe even changing your style of writing could be interpreted as showing competence in
and therefore point toward some leading
type. But besides from those aspects, there are some serious problems with the ESFj hypothesis:
1. ESFjs simply don't like theory. They are very practical-minded, down-to-earth people, and they prefer to act instead of discussing theoretical problems. To call an ESFj a "deep thinker" or a "know it all" is almost a contradiction in terms.
2. ESFjs in general don't like to go against public opinion too much. Not many ESFjs would openly state that they don't like political correctness -- that is a rather strong argument against the hypothesis that we are dealing with a
leading type here. We can almost say that
is related to political
correctness. And to "tend to tell the truth and think 'if you can't handle it, then that's your deal''' does not suggest
in the ego block, neither does it indicate that
is highly valued.
3. Many people can of course agree with, or even themselves say things like "I believe in people being authentically themselves and living their potential", but it does not suggest ESFj as one of the top type candidates. It rather points toward one of the four NF types.
4. ESFjs are generally quite good at handling money.
5. ESFjs are not "huge messy pigs". On the contrary they often tend to be almost obsessed with cleaning and putting things in their right place, etc. ESFjs are very orderly people -- both at work and at their free time. They are good at planning, following schedules, etc.
I would say that all of the five arguments against ESFj can be seen as arguments for ENFp, at least they are perfectly consistent with that type hypothesis.