Thoughts on Dualization
There is a hope promised by socionics. The hope of dualization.
I'm talking about taking any relation and harmonizing it through understanding.
Why is this not better documented?
Is great to meat a dual BUT what do you do if you are in a very serious relationship and you need help?
So... is there any information of dualization of imperfect relationships?
"What is love?"
"The total absence of fear," said the Master.
"What is it we fear?"
"Love," said the Master.
I chose Love
Not sure if there's any real information, but I do know that both people in a relationship start to imitate the partner's dual a bit.
A long time ago I describes the relationship between me and ILI and Expat asked if I'm sure I'm not SEE. He said what I described is exactly what an SEE traditionally gives to her relationship with an ILI. Plus as odd as it sounds, the ILI said that at some point he started knowingly phrasing his sentences the way he hears from an LSI at work and said that he needs to repeat himself much less. I didn't notice the difference at all. In stead of saying, "yeah, kinda", he said, "this is so" and I didn't reply with "are you sure?" like I used to.
EIE, ENFj, intuitive subtype.
E3 (probably 3w4)
Cool ILI hubbys are better than LSIs any time!
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Imitation might work in theory... how the heck do you imitate Se?Originally Posted by Kristiina
Not sure if there's any real information, but I do know that both people in a relationship start to imitate the partner's dual a bit.
"What is love?"
"The total absence of fear," said the Master.
"What is it we fear?"
"Love," said the Master.
I chose Love
Ok... more context.
I've met this amazing ILE. She's what I call a high level person. Compassionate, caring, very good professional. And she is very good looking.
We had a physical relation. It started as just "taking advantage of each other" but it later developed into something more... I care for her... and I think she cares for me too.
Now. What should I do. Continue searching for SLE?
I kept searching for a nice SLE and I've met some BUT some of them were this pathetic depressed, self destroying women. I don't like the idea of being near such a person. Ok, some were very very sexy... but still, that feeling fades very quickly.
"What is love?"
"The total absence of fear," said the Master.
"What is it we fear?"
"Love," said the Master.
I chose Love
ILE would be your illusionary right? So that's not a bad relation! Personally I believe that what's most important in relationships is the health of the individuals involved. And there are other factors in attraction and compatibility. You learn over time how to meet each other's needs as best you can. And in those areas where you can't, you learn to accept it and meet them elsewhere or do it yourself.
IEI-Fe 4w3
Yeah... I've seen it being among the recommended ones (Filatova).
What I would love to see are the challenges and solutions in cases like this better explained.
"What is love?"
"The total absence of fear," said the Master.
"What is it we fear?"
"Love," said the Master.
I chose Love
No. Beware, find your dual or your life will be misery. Socionics takes no prisoners; repent of your illusionary ways.
LII
that is what i was getting at. if there is an inescapable appropriation that is required in the act of understanding, this brings into question the validity of socionics in describing what is real, and hence stubborn contradictions that continue to plague me.
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