The victim romantic style is widely misunderstood, partly because of it's name. The extrovert in a relationship is the initiator and the one who sets the pace.
ENxj and ISxj: The ENxj sets things up the way (s)he wants them to play out, and the ISxj responds to the ENxj's cues, doing what the ENxj wants when the ENxj wants him/her to do it (just in terms of hooking up, not in day to day stuff). The ENxj likes the ISxj not only because (s)he responds to cues promptly (EJ's are impatient), but also stands up to the ENxj. ENxj's are intense people and need to be with someone who's strong enough to comfortably handle them. They need to feel as though they've "met their match" in terms of strength of will.
ESxp and INxp: The ESxp rapes the INxp and claims the INxp as his/her own. As far as I know, this is the only way to get with an INxp. (Feel free to expand upon or correct this description.)