Some conclusions I've reached, from interactions with SEEs, ILIs, ESIs.
SEEs can be very "explosive" and impulsive, they can lash out their frustration, even anger, at who's around them. They use their to try to get things moving, frustrated, and often expecting others to do things that can't be done (at least not yet), because of their HA.
That doesn't happen with LIEs and ESIs, who, in the absence of very bad crises, have a much calmer and even "robotic" interaction that puzzles the non-LIE and non-ESI fools.
One effect of this is that both the LIE and the ESI can get rather upset when the target of one such SEE "explosion": the LIE because the dual-seeking will go, "my relationship with the SEE is very bad", while the ESI will resent stress on their dual-seeking as in "maybe I'm being incompetent?" even if it's the SEE's that's bonkers.
The ILI is not affected, because the ILI's is strong enough to realize that such explosions are meaningless in the context of the big picture and long-term relationship (), due to the PoLR the ILI is not concerned with the anger aspect, and their is not affected, either.
So the ILI's reaction is exactly what the SEE needs: "calm down, you're blowing things out of proportion, things will be done but it will take a while more, it's no big deal".