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[Hot Scalding Gayser]

I have a very good friend that as of lately, social interaction with her is a strain (actually it's always been this way I just now noticed it) but I only have fond memories of her as long as I'm not trying to directly communicate with her. I'd probably be content on just thinking about her for life, but to her I think she gets upset that I don't seem to want to spend that much time with her. What relation do you think this would be?

Like....I know what she's like and we've known each other for 10 years now, but like, I just wanna think back to the past or something. I dunno, it might seem like I don't want the relationship to progress, but to me- it's as good as a relationship can get, so I only have fond memories and I just don't know what else we could do physically together to improve our love. Short of having sex, but that will never happen of course. We already hug lots and show affection and have already done tons of stuff together from playing video games to going to bars etc. But it's really hard to have a conversation with her (we're both introverts) but... we can do physical things together quite easily. (Again, hug, just hang together....) It's really easy and natural.

Sometimes I'll get a burst of confidence and just tell her a lot of things, but that quickly fades and it's kind of awkward again. But looking back on the memories, they are very positive- just not in a 'live in the moment' kind of way. Except when we're drunk, but that's expected.

[Expat]

I'd guess that the specific communication problems, and her keener on the relationship than you, mean that you are on opposite sides of the Merry/Serious divide, that is, as you're almost certainly Alpha or Beta, she'd be Gamma or Delta. That you enjoy spending time together in the activities you described could mean that you both value Ne and Si. So, if you're an Alpha, she'd be a Delta.

If you are an ISFp (for the sake of argument) then she'd likely be an INFj, that is, Benefit, which might fit except that as she should be the one less confortable with the relationship rather than you. But, perhaps she just likes you for the sake of Fi, and the difficulty in conversation is that she keeps wanting to "draw" Te out of you.

Just some thoughts, FWIW.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

Wow Expat. Yeah she tested INFj on these tests lots of times. Whoa that makes sense.

She is more comfortable than me in the relationship. Sometimes she doesn't understand how I'm awkward, but I just wish she would show more Fe sometimes.

I know if we don't spend a lot of one on one time she will chastise me for it. She also doesn't like at all how I don't put enough pressure in the real world and I'm not that driven to be successful. But I think that I would lose my charm if I was like that. We have a very loving friendship, but I think if we worked together we would probably be at each other.

She HATES my Alpha/Beta pornstar blowjob throat fuck-y talk. She tolerates it, but she doesn't like it so I have to stiffle that part of myself. She still can be very joke-y about sex, but she thinks I talk about it too much. And I probably do, but whatever. She also challenges me/corrects me more often than I'm comfortable with. But really other than that, we're crazy about each other since we have so many similiar interests. And talking to her feels much more sweet than it does bitter.

Anyways I'll just leave it at this as I think it's cowardly to talk behind somebody's back when they're not here to defend themselves. She already knows why we don't get along sometimes, but it's more good than bad.