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Would you say most caregivers you know have a tendency to want someone in their lives for that reason - to just be occupied?Paranoid Ni: "I feel like I don't have any purpose in the world; I wander through life without really being sure of what I'm going to do with myself. I just want one person to need me so I know that, if all else fails, I have something to live for."
Basic desire: To be needed
I was thinking about the above quote today, and basically trying to consider some caregivers I know who seem to be that way. One ESE was really, really social and involved in lots of things, and I may be beginning to understand why she was that way, because a lot of her friends were there, and she was constantly looking for all of these people to be worried about, check up on, fuss over, see how they are doing, etc.
She has since found a steady boyfriend, and seems much more calm and happy.
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It seems the reciprocal would be someone who would want someone to fuss about them, or feel comfortable because of it. I can see how the ESE was basically secretly hoping there would be someone like that, and in fact did come across someone like that.Paranoid Se: "Sometimes it feels like the world is working against me; I never have everything I need to accomplish my goals. I just want one person who will always help me, even when it feels like everyone else is working against me."
Basic desire: To be supported
So would you say that it is somewhat important for a caregiver to have people it can fuss about and look after, on a day to day basis? And how do they deal with spreading themselves too thin? In one sense, it appears that monogamy comes up as a means to feel like "ok, so long as this one person is ok, then everything is alright" - as a means of focusing.
Anyone want to expand up that, or anything else her?