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    I know that ENFp's are good at making people feel comfortable. But what other types give off an aura of relaxation. So that the people around them feel at ease without ever doing a lot of talking?

    I'm just wondering because I have a friend who seems to just relax me every time we hang out. He doesn't even need to say much or ask me anything to peak my interest.

    What do you guys think?
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    hmm, I don't know which types would draw people in most. I think that charm, or charisma or whatever it is that make people interesting isn't really type related.

    At first, I assumed ENFPs would always be good w/ people, until I met some who were dull, or had strange laughs, or didn't really know how to act with people. And I thought ISTJs were kinda boring, until I met one who was super outgoing and had lots of passion and fun interests. So it's really hard to say.

    I think that charm is more based on emotional intelligence and experience dealing with people than anything. Plus, having something to offer people, such as humor or intelligence. I really think any type that has a lot to offer, would naturally draw people in.

    But of course, the type that would draw me in most would be ISTP.
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    Umm. From what I hear from friends, I think IxTps have that kind off "aura" that seems to cause people to just want to find out more about them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dolphin View Post
    Hmmmm I don't think any particular type is going to be "relaxing" to everyone - what's "comfortable" to one type is not universal.

    But I'm not quite sure which intertype relationships are like you describe, perhaps duals or activity partners? Maybe someone more knowledgeable in Socionics will come along and correct me.
    I agree, IXTps or no other type will relax you or put you at ease if they are your conflictor or in some other type of really negative relation to your own type.
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    Talkative and "warm" people relax me. Jittery drama queens do not.

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    Fe+Si+Ne tend to draw people imo. Therefore, any Alpha types, especially the extraverts.

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    IEI's in my experience. Somehow people end up flocking around them one by one.

    ESE's have two sides - some draw people near, and some are too intense for other people.
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    ENFjs!!!

    just from my own personal experience tho.

    hmmm

    some ESFjs too

    and some INFps

    and a few
    ExFps also


    hmm
    and some NTs too

    haha


    but mainly ENFj and ESFj from my observations...but that's just my observations

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    I agree, ExFx except for ESFj, they really get too intense for me sometimes.
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    Yes, ESFjs can be intense. I like ISXps.
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    Yeah, this is kind of the point of socionics.

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    Quote Originally Posted by theMime. View Post
    ENFjs!!!
    I agree - I think they give off a this-is-where-it's-all-happening-but-if-you-don't-like-it-you-can-lump-it sort of vibe

    ESFps relax me personally ... one on one that is ... in a group setting not so much
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina View Post
    IEI's in my experience. Somehow people end up flocking around them one by one.
    The question is: for how long? Are they able to sustain the relationships, or do so0me of them ultimately wear people out if the go over the top with a more histrionic kind of Fe?
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