i'm getting my mind around the infantile position driven by the presence of Ne in the go block. i've actually seen 2 of my Ne dominant friends, one an IEE the other an EII both kind of have downfalls into dependency. they both have lost their will for independence. one has become dependent on prescription drugs due to a physical illness, including the fentanyl patch and goes to pain clinic, the other has put close to 100 pounds on her formerly svelte frame and has an array of addictions feeding her including food, shopping, and alcohol. their husbands both manage 95% of what has to be done. in the former case, the husband works, cooks, cleans, pays bills. basically does everything. in the latter case it's the same, and various baby sitters take care of the 3 children. neither woman works. the former is on disability and the latter just doesn't work since her husband is a high earning professional.
i draw attention to this not to judge, but to discuss the link of between these behaviors (and lack thereof) to a desire for being taken care of brought to the extreme. i don't know whether the same would apply to alpha infantiles (perhaps i just don't know of any cases). but i must wonder whether extreme dependency can be the logical outcome of an infantile orientation, if unchecked.
in the first case, the person clearly has fibromyalgia and is sick, but the dependency on opiates has become so severe that i wonder to what degree her symptoms are reflective of the drug dependency. at thanksgiving, she could not so much as clear her dish from the table. in the second case, this person could clearly take greater responsibility whilst her husband works 3 jobs to support her shopping and dining out habits.
has anybody noticed this? could these kinds of examples be one reason why people recoil from the infantile label? is an enabling care-taking person in the life of an infantile always a good thing?