Hello, I would like advice from ISTj’s or people who a lot of experience with ISTj’s.
I work with an ISTj and all around he is a cool guy. He tends to get pretty angry from time to time, ranging anything from dealing with customers to his fellow employees. Sometimes he gets angry towards me, and depending on the reasons for his anger I may either just ignore him or choose to argue back at him. Yesterday we were having a holiday fest and our department had to put people at free sampling stations, I was one of them. I was ordered throughout the time to do certain things that diverted my attention away from our department. After the holiday fest was over with, I managed to do whatever I could, but then I forgot to do a few things that related to cleaning everything up. The ISTj thought that I was creating a situation so that he would have to clean up after me; basically he thought that I was purposely acting against him, and when I tried to explain to him that it was not the case, he basically called me a liar. I was not happy with that at all. I could not help but get angry. I have to work with him, and I swear, I could just strangle this guy. I mean, he is a good guy, I like him, but damn, I can really get into fight with him! Right now, I could just get into his face, but I probably ought to just calm down right now (which is not easy for me to do).
My questions are this:
How angry does an ISTj have to get to lose their reasoning ability? Or in another words, is it likely that I can reason with this guy even if he is really angry at me?
How necessary that an ISTj has to vent off? How long does it take for them to?
Thanks in advance