Children and youth have difficulty becoming resilient unless they have help from adults. But they do not accept help from just any adult, only those whom they trust, respect, love, or with whom they feel bonded. From the beginning, trust is the key to promoting resilience and becomes the basis for promoting other resilience factors. When children and youth feel trusting, loving relationships, they are more likely to accept limits to their behavior
and find appropriate role models; are more likely to become likeable, empathetic, caring, otpimistic, hopeful; and can more easily engage in successful interpersonal relationships, solve problems in various settings, and reach out for help.
Signs of low trust in adults:
Tries to control others. If you felt that you could not trust anyone to be loving or helpful, you may have come to see everyone as dangerous and potentially hostile. You may have felt that to keep them from harming you. you needed to control them. If you can control them, they cannot harm you, and trust, then, is irrelevant.
Withdraws from human interaction. The reason for this reaction is to feel safer and less threatened by a world that cannot be trusted. You may have become self-reliant and avoided getting involved emotionally, rejecting efforts of others to develop any meaningful relationship
Does not try to develop personal talents and abilities. If you feel that you cannot trust yourself to achieve, then you may try to protect yourself from what you see as inevitable failure. You may have let others do things for you, becoming dependent. You may allow yourself to be manipulated because you feel certain that others are better than you are, know more, and are the most likely to protect you.