I only know one ESFj for certain, and she's not young. So I'm wondering what ESFjs would be like if they were around my age. I know two people that I think could be... or maybe they're something else.
The blond one is a high school friend who took a lot of shit for 3 things: whining, talking, and her daddy's money. She never seemed to realize that the guys really were making fun of her because she rubbed them the wrong way. She just loved the attention. She talked a lot too. Just to be saying something, I guess? She's a lawyer now, and when she got her first job she sent out an announcement that read
"I just got my dream job! I'm the personal law clerk to the honorable Judge XXX, Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals, 7th District blah blah blah, blah blah blah..." It cracked me up - you'd think it was the coronation of Queen Elisabeth.
The second one is also a lawyer, but I don't know her that well. She's very starry-eyed, with a big smile, and seems very alert and energetic. The first time I met her, she was griping about how much schoolwork she had to do. (If you have soooo much work to do, why are you voluntarily playing sports with your friends?) Other people's thoughts: the ISTp said he thought she was on crack because she wouldn't shut up. My INFp friend says 'She's a nice girl', but avoids sitting next to her at dinner because every time she tells a story she sounds like she's bragging about the wonderful things she's done on her dad's credit card. She comes off as having to be the center of attention. She can't just be in a group and casually enter the conversation. She has to announce something, no matter what's going on, and make sure she's heard. If you don't snap to fast enough, she'll say it til you do.
Anyway, I was thinking they VIed similarly, but I'm not very experienced at it...