I am currently facing a tragedy in which I need a lot of emotional support, consultation, advice, encouragement, and protection. Unfortunately, the closest person to whom i may turn to is an ENFj-Fe. It hurts to experience how she lacks in providing these things for me and totally fails to understand and help me, even though she wants to. It appears though as if she continuously fails to understand what I want (need), misses the point of my "needs" and thus cannot respond appropriately. I feel as if I'm asking for something she can't give. Like I am looking in the wrong place. I wonder if anyone else has experienced something like this or have felt a similar way?
I think this may be related to Fi (and Fe vs. Fi) and that it's something an EXFp person could give some appropriate and positive feedback to (?). Things like this also make me think how cold and un-emotional can EXFj types (appear to) be. You would wonder how this may be? Well, be an IXTp and see it for yourself.