Originally Posted by
BulletsAndDoves
Meh.
Okay, you know what guys? I don't really believe that the powerful force needs a quiet, immovable object so much anymore. Who plays the top/bottom, male/female...all those dichotomies. Hate them. I'm sick and tired of it. If relationships are really as cut and dry, day/night like that, then I don't even want one. I get just bored after awhile if somebody expects me to be passive all the time or vice-versa. I have dreams where I'm both dominant and submissive, and I like them both equally. =)
I'm a quiet, sensitive guy (for the most part), and in all honestly, for romantic/sexual long-term partners I want somebody that is the SAME as that. They need to be different, of course (who wans to talk in the mirror? Boring! Not to mention narcissistic...) but on a very slight subtle level. I'm attracted to people who look like me a lot, that is my same height and has my same life values and basic same personality.
If you are a weak little mouse, chances are you are going to be with the OTHER weak little mice, not be sexually attracted to the big scary cats, who you might be in fantasy, but in reality, birds of a feather flock together.
Have you ever thought from a distance that a person was gonna be perfect for you. The whole she-bang, just because they were like, ya know, more forceful than you, or more powerful, and then when you really got to know them, you hate them? You even sexually hate them, because they end up being bad lovers. Do you have any idea how often that has happened to me?
I still admire differences. They make things edgy, mysterious, and interesting, but in the end, when the chips are down and when it REALLY matters the most - another mouse is gonna save your back not a fucking cat. Please be realistic guys.
Though I am not a weak mouse, somewhere inbetween....I'm probably just like a golden retriever puppy dog if anybody wants one. ;p
Oh and: Versatility FTW. If you have to be 'in-charge' all the time or have to be the weak little girly-girl I will drop ya faster than hotcakes.