Originally Posted by
FDG
What the fuck are you talking about?
Shut up and fucking read what I have to say
(Is that how you want me to talk to you, FDG?)
I am talking about when an ISTj is obviously close to someone, and you are working in a team setting. The ISTj constantly refers to the other person, and your input is minimal in the situation. How do you go about this? When I try to interject or say something, they just keep talking through it. This has happened at least two times in two different situations with two different people. It is a possessiveness thing.
Forget I used the word "team spirit" - apparently that gets everyone's panties bunched.
What I am getting at is how do you go about proper communication, especially to the ISTj's close friend? It is like you have to wait endlessly for them to finish whatever thing they are talking about -- which could be complete gossip. They seem to do this because they want to exert that they are higher on the totem poll than you are, making you wait. OR, should I just bitch them out and say "look, I have something important to say, listen!". It is has been very difficult to hold back so far and I always feel like we are on the verge of a conflict.
Related to the totem poll bit, the ISTj expresses their opinion on something -- "Well, I don't think it should be this way!" like it really matters. What's worse, the ISTj's friend, who is also our superior, never, in any way, does anything about it. She completely accepts it. She might be Fe creative or INFj, definitely IXFX, with low Se. So its like, the ISTj basically is given full right to dominate the situation, and it is extremely annoying.
So how, in terms of effective communication amongst team members, do you go about dealing with the ISTj in this situation?