Ok so I know this is gonna sound like a Dear Abby post but whatever...

So there's this ILI that I've been hooking up with and he told me how he feels conflicted because he wants his independence and doesn't want a girlfriend yet he still wants someone to love (aww) anyway, i like him but I kinda feel the same way. The wierd thing is we usually end up having sleepovers most weekends anyway. In my experience with ILI's I'm the one thats cheering them up and giving them a reason to go on (as dramatic as that sounds) so I feel like I should be the one to make the initiative for us to be something more since we pretty much are anyway but I'm scared since ILI's can be fickle and when they feel like someone is trying to impede on their freedom freak out. What should I do? I don't necessarily want a relationship with him but I want to be able to cuddle and be able to be cute with him without him thinking im just some crazy attached girl.