I saw a gorgeous INTj at a concert last week . My friends and I were there to see a goth/indie/alternative rock band (Rasputina, for those of you who know and love them) at a relatively small bar in the city where I live.
Basically, the INTj was standing in a dark corner (next to me and my friends), relaxedly drinking his beer. He was tall, upright, calm, and composed. He seemed like a thoughtful, serious person, but not a dreamy, "lost in thought" person. He wore a goatee, a backwards flat cap (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flat_cap), and a neatly pressed shirt. He looked like a poshed-up philosopher, which doesn't at all contradict the impression I have of INTjs being quite stylish. Anyway, he was hot; the epitome of the strong, silent type.
After gazing at him for a few minutes (since my glance fell upon him in short intervals), I began a debate with my friends and myself over whether to talk to him during the set breaks. I had three predicaments, though:
1) I didn't know what to say! What do you say to an INTj to pique his interest?
2) I didn't know if he wanted to be talked to. He looked so content being alone that I didn't want to disturb his calm (as opposed to a lonely yet homely ISTj I saw at the concert, who looked desperate to be talked to).
3) I didn't know whether he was alone because his ESFj girlfriend didn't like weird goth music and didn't want to go to the show with him, haha.
My point is, what would you recommend one say to an INTj to engage him? I was thinking of asking him whether he stroked his goatee whenever he was thinking, and whether that helped him think or not, but my friends told me that was weird and stupid. Suggestions?