Talking about the concept of dual-seeking, I've been tallying how many of my past relationships were, in fact, duals or semi-duals (ESTp/ESFp). And the number is MOST of them.
I seem to have always had that function down -- usually being highly energized by encountering my dual or semi-. Everything seems enhanced, vivid and electric. However, curiously, while they always seem to be attracted (once I managed to get their attention), they almost never have initiated contact. They usually have "dropped the ball" and left it to me to seek them out. (This, of itself is a problem, because I feel hampered and inhibited by traditional gender roles).
According to theory here, duals "complete" each other in that Jerry Maguire way...? Why then, would your dual ever be hesitant about approaching you, getting more deeply involved, or otherwise uncomfortable around you? It's seemed often to me that my dual seemed really genuinely ambivalent about me. Not that I was completely conflictless, but I felt compelled to follow the attraction to see where it would go. Why would someone avoid their dual if the experience is supposed to be a natural attraction of opposites?
Are dual encounters akin to Jung's concept of encountering the Other? Are you supposed to learn to integrate your weaker functions through the encounter? And is it possible a dual may disown those weakest functions and therefore have a problem with you because you're embodying them in the flesh?
Please share dual experiences and insights...? Lots of questions here, but you guys have lots of ideas, I'm sure.