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VI- INTj or INTp?
wow, those pics are big
eh well
Compared to the INTps and INTjs I know, he looks much more INTp, especially the eyes.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I can't tell which one he is by reading the descriptions.
Isn't that your husband, Joy?
Yes, especially the eyes.Originally Posted by Kim
Binary or dichotomous systems, although regulated by a principle, are among the most artificial arrangements that have ever been invented. -- William Swainson, A Treatise on the Geography and Classification of Animals (1835)
yeah
I don't know, he just looks high to me.
"To become is just like falling asleep. You never know exactly when it happens, the transition, the magic, and you think, if you could only recall that exact moment of crossing the line then you would understand everything; you would see it all"
"Angels dancing on the head of a pin dissolve into nothingness at the bedside of a dying child."
What are the main differences between INTjs and INTps?
I think your DH looks more intp.
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ILE
DH?
Dear Husband.
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ILE
I see.
In all honesty, I'm sorta stressed about this.
Why? Is it because of relations?
If he is intp then your relations are contrary if you are entp and if you are enfp they are illusionary.
If you are entp and he is intj then you have mirror relations. If you are enfp and he is intj then you are his supervisee.
Don't fret. I was in an illusionary relationship once, it was ok.
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I'm not an ENFp! I wouldn't be concerned about illusionary relations. I get along with INFps very well. What I am concerned about is how things have gotten progressively worse between us over the last year, particularly the last 6 months.
I know you are not enfp, I was just messin.
Progressively worse? How long have you been married?
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ILE
lol, okay
Heh, good point.
I think Joy's description of him sounds quite INTj.
Binary or dichotomous systems, although regulated by a principle, are among the most artificial arrangements that have ever been invented. -- William Swainson, A Treatise on the Geography and Classification of Animals (1835)
he always looks high... becuase he always is high
High on what? Weed? There's almost nothing more aggravating to a relationship than substance abuse.
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ILE
Yeah, weed. I don't consider it substance abuse in his case and it doesn't bother me.
He's always high but that's not a problem?
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ILE
Well, now we know why everything's screwed up for Joy.
Binary or dichotomous systems, although regulated by a principle, are among the most artificial arrangements that have ever been invented. -- William Swainson, A Treatise on the Geography and Classification of Animals (1835)
He behaves more reasonably high than most people ever do.
So why are you stressed with him?
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ILE
He never does anything or goes anywhere. I don't even take him to family functions. He's always been rather leisurely, but in the past year it's gone beyond exceptable perimeters. And I could even deal with all of that if I still felt a connection with him. It seems we're getting more distant as time goes on. I've been telling myself that it's becuase he's depressed. I don't know.
What does he say about it?
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Sounds like total or near total loss of connection. What keeps you together (other than the fact that you are married?)?
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Not a bunch... he doesn't talk much anymore. I try to find things that he wants for himself, some kind of anything that would be a positive thing in his life, but he gets irritated.
What keeps me with him? Trust me, it has NOTHING to do with beig married. Marriage is simply registering your relationship with the government. This is what keeps me with him.
I've never posted this photo before because it's likely the worst photo of me ever, but it's a picture of the day we decided to get married. We used to be VERY connected. I don't leave because I know what it's like to be depressed. No one is a good partner when they're depressed. I believe things will be better again...
Maybe he's going through latency? Refusing to grow up?
Perhaps, but there's got to be more to it than that.
Is he on meds?
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Adderall.
When he had no energy to get out of bed in the morning or do anything at all, I took him to the doctor to rule out physical causes. The doctor did some tests and then gave him Lexapro. He refuses to take any meds or supplements to improve his depression. It's like he's gone into autopilot.
Why does he refuse to take anti-depressants??
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
he doesn't want the depression to lift
Why not?
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I wish I knew. My best guess is that he doesn't want to have to do anything.
He doesn't want the depression to lift _because_ he's depressed. I was the same exact way.
"To become is just like falling asleep. You never know exactly when it happens, the transition, the magic, and you think, if you could only recall that exact moment of crossing the line then you would understand everything; you would see it all"
"Angels dancing on the head of a pin dissolve into nothingness at the bedside of a dying child."
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“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
uh huh
That, to me, would be the bottom line. As long as you can handle it, it's fine to be supportive. But when it gets to you, you cannot be supportive.
And you know, he might get irritated when you suggest things and insist on something, but hey, that's the reality of relationships. Regardless of types and depression, you cannot have it your way all the way. It doesn't work that way. Relationships are about compromises.
He might come around and I'm not suggesting to drop him or to apply severe pressure. I'm just saying that you have needs, too, and that you need to look after yourself. And ideally, he should look after your needs as well, especially when he feels less low...
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
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