I had a conversation with INTp Erkki. I said, "For me, the best time of a kid's life is when he starts understanding me and I can explain the world to him in stead of sheltering him from it. Among other things, I can explain the dangers and he can be careful himself. Like today the kid found the corkscrew and in stead of just taking it away from him, I explained how one end is sharp and might hurt him if he's not careful, and he was fascinated and repeated after me, "Careful. Hurt." and he was very careful with it and placed it on the table." ( ) And he said, "I disagree. The best time of a kid's life is when he is about 5-7 years old and he starts developing his values. From 3-6, he learns the values from the life that the parents provide and after that he starts developing the values from media and peers. It's a very interesting time." ( ) Erkki commented that explaining the dangers is just a phase in a kids development, it's not worth mentioning as something important. And I said that the kid will learn some values no matter what we do or say, but should just sometimes check if he's developing in the right direction - no torturing of animals, no intentional breaking of promises, etc.
So basically, I saw this as one possible theory - people teach their children as much as they can about their hidden agenda. This is what a kid must learn. My earlier theory was that parents teach the children to be similar to them, but seems that on an idealistic level, parents want to teach their children to have the qualities that they most admire in themselves and others.