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    Having those two functions is a big curse in life!
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    lol why?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jimbean
    lol why?
    I think beta NF's are very indecisive individuals. I hate how I'm so emotional and I'm always confused in the weirdest situations. I need an ISTj
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    Yes, yes, yes. I relate.

    Ahhaha, and I agree with Thunder.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    Yes, yes, yes. I relate.

    Ahhaha, and I agree with Thunder.
    Glad that I'm not the only one. I finally got what I've wanted for a really long time and I'm ruining it. I never know what I truly want.
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    Hah, agreed! Last one to sabotage their relationship is condemned to an eternity of reliving their most embarrassing mistakes!

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    Quote Originally Posted by onetreehilluver
    Quote Originally Posted by Jimbean
    lol why?
    I think beta NF's are very indecisive individuals. I hate how I'm so emotional and I'm always confused in the weirdest situations. I need an ISTj
    Same here. I'm very indecisive and emotional. It can be rather hard.
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron
    Quote Originally Posted by onetreehilluver
    Quote Originally Posted by Jimbean
    lol why?
    I think beta NF's are very indecisive individuals. I hate how I'm so emotional and I'm always confused in the weirdest situations. I need an ISTj
    Same here. I'm very indecisive and emotional. It can be rather hard.
    i do agree with this. my infp man is quite indecisive and emotional. i don't mind emotional. i do mind indecisive. it's frustrating. take today, for instance. he's been saying all week he wants to come over and spend time with me and my kids, and keeps canceling due to being tired from work. i still don't know if he's coming over tonight. i feel like i have to bribe him by saying i'll cook a nice dinner. if you try to just make the decisions yourself, he just resists which is also a waste of time.

    i'm busy. i want to do things. i'm tired of waiting around for him to resolve his confusion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by diamond8
    i do agree with this. my infp man is quite indecisive and emotional. i don't mind emotional. i do mind indecisive. it's frustrating. take today, for instance. he's been saying all week he wants to come over and spend time with me and my kids, and keeps canceling due to being tired from work. i still don't know if he's coming over tonight. i feel like i have to bribe him by saying i'll cook a nice dinner. if you try to just make the decisions yourself, he just resists which is also a waste of time.

    i'm busy. i want to do things. i'm tired of waiting around for him to resolve his confusion.
    That's very Ni IP, by the way. Ni-INTps are exactly the same (not the emotional bit of course).
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    I can identify too. It is a curse to be ENFj. The worst part is the repeating flashbacks of the mistakes in the past. I often wish to be some other type. I can be indecicive at times, but it's not nearly as much of a problem as anxiety and guilt over the "could have-should have".
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    By all means, have the shit of the ENFj. But realise that you are saving yourself a lot of hassle by not being ESTp. This type just breeds pure war with every living thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezra
    By all means, have the shit of the ENFj. But realise that you are saving yourself a lot of hassle by not being ESTp. This type just breeds pure war with every living thing.
    awww, maybe that's why you need an INFp, to soften the edges.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina
    I can identify too. It is a curse to be ENFj. The worst part is the repeating flashbacks of the mistakes in the past. I often wish to be some other type. I can be indecicive at times, but it's not nearly as much of a problem as anxiety and guilt over the "could have-should have".
    That is exactly how I feel. I'm constantly worried about every little thing and yesterday I realized that there is something about me that makes a certain someone treat me like crap. I did have a couple of tears and then I was able to hold back. I just wish I could fin out what the hell is the matter with me!
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    Quote Originally Posted by onetreehilluver
    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina
    I can identify too. It is a curse to be ENFj. The worst part is the repeating flashbacks of the mistakes in the past. I often wish to be some other type. I can be indecicive at times, but it's not nearly as much of a problem as anxiety and guilt over the "could have-should have".
    That is exactly how I feel. I'm constantly worried about every little thing and yesterday I realized that there is something about me that makes a certain someone treat me like crap. I did have a couple of tears and then I was able to hold back. I just wish I could fin out what the hell is the matter with me!
    2 days ago I started reading a book about cognitive behavioral psychology and it made me realize that this kind of a thing can actually be diagnosed and cured. If you're interested in finding out more - web page about it. I found out I had been using some of the recommended methods by instinct, but I'll need time to really think the whole thing through to see if there is something more that I can try. I don't know enough to educate you on the topic but google "Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy anxiety" if you're still interested.

    They say that the hardest thing is to forgive yourself. I think it will be years (if ever) until I'll stop having anxiety over trivial embarrassing moments in my life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina
    Quote Originally Posted by onetreehilluver
    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina
    I can identify too. It is a curse to be ENFj. The worst part is the repeating flashbacks of the mistakes in the past. I often wish to be some other type. I can be indecicive at times, but it's not nearly as much of a problem as anxiety and guilt over the "could have-should have".
    That is exactly how I feel. I'm constantly worried about every little thing and yesterday I realized that there is something about me that makes a certain someone treat me like crap. I did have a couple of tears and then I was able to hold back. I just wish I could fin out what the hell is the matter with me!
    2 days ago I started reading a book about cognitive behavioral psychology and it made me realize that this kind of a thing can actually be diagnosed and cured. If you're interested in finding out more - web page about it. I found out I had been using some of the recommended methods by instinct, but I'll need time to really think the whole thing through to see if there is something more that I can try. I don't know enough to educate you on the topic but google "Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy anxiety" if you're still interested.

    They say that the hardest thing is to forgive yourself. I think it will be years (if ever) until I'll stop having anxiety over trivial embarrassing moments in my life.
    Thanx Kriistina. I did a research paper on Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and I did alot of reading about CBT. With all the things going on in my life at the moment, I forgot about it completely. So thanks for reminding me about it. I'm really going to consider it.
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    sounds to me like CBT is a cure for ENFjness

    no seriously, it's stupid. Fe and Ni aren't a curse. I embrace both of them and i do tend to be indecisive and get emotional but that's who i am and if i try to control or limit myself, how is my ESTp going to find and appreciate me. Same with you Emman.
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    I'm constantly worried about every little thing and yesterday I realized that there is something about me that makes a certain someone treat me like crap.
    Every person is accountable for his or her own actions.
    That certain someone acted on their own accord - and it is not because of something you did. That person chose their actions, chose how to react to you. Now it is up to you to choose how you want to react. Crying is optional.

    Basically, if someone is treating you like crap, it is because they want to treat you like crap. Of course you have to be mindful of what you are putting into the situation - whether you are enticing them or not - but the fact that someone is treating you like crap is most indicative of the following: said person feels it is acceptable to treat someone else like crap. I would not be too concerned about someone who feels it is "ok" to treat other people like pieces of shit - they have their own issues to deal with. Do not let such people interfere with your well being.
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    Quote Originally Posted by UDP
    I'm constantly worried about every little thing and yesterday I realized that there is something about me that makes a certain someone treat me like crap.
    Every person is accountable for his or her own actions.
    That certain someone acted on their own accord - and it is not because of something you did. That person chose their actions, chose how to react to you. Now it is up to you to choose how you want to react. Crying is optional.

    Basically, if someone is treating you like crap, it is because they want to treat you like crap. Of course you have to be mindful of what you are putting into the situation - whether you are enticing them or not - but the fact that someone is treating you like crap is most indicative of the following: said person feels it is acceptable to treat someone else like crap. I would not be too concerned about someone who feels it is "ok" to treat other people like pieces of shit - they have their own issues to deal with. Do not let such people interfere with your well being.
    I'm not anymore. I like who I am and I dont want to change anything about me even though I'm not perfect. That person is not in my life anymore and I don't want them back in my life either. I have a wonderful person and I think I'm finally sure of what I want. Weird
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    I think I'm finally sure of what I want.
    I give it a week
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    Quote Originally Posted by nerv_damage
    I think I'm finally sure of what I want.
    I give it a week
    now that's the funniest thing i've read in a week hahahahaha thanks for that! :-)

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    now that's the funniest thing i've read in a week hahahahaha thanks for that! :-)
    you're welcome
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