View Poll Results: Do you like kids

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  • No, and I never want to have any of my own

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  • Yes a bit

    5 38.46%
  • Yes, and I want to have some of my own

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Thread: IEIs/INFps - do you like kids? Poll

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    Default IEIs/INFps - do you like kids? Poll

    Today I've met my fourth INFP person, and from three out of four I know they don't want kids later on in their life. The fourth is unknown.

    Is this a pattern, or coincidence?

    This poll is for INFP only.

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    Weak and unvalued Si.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    I like kids, and hope to one day have some of my own. I think I'd make an okay dad.
    "How could we forget those ancient myths that stand at the beginning of all races, the myths about dragons that at the last moment are transformed into princesses? Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love."
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    I think I'm pretty good at dealing with kids cuz I'm the oldest of four children so did lots of baby sitting when I was younger. That being said I'm undecided as to whether I'd actually want kids in the future. It's a lot of responsibility and I'd need to know that I was financially secure enough to take care of them the way I'd want to. Also I'd need to be in a stable relationship. Even with all those requirements met tho it would very strongly depend on the what my s/o would want - I'd also be up for adopting a child vs. having my s/o suffer 9 months of horror and the detrimental impacts to her career.

    But this is all hypothetical and I can't see myself with kids before I'm thirty something if ever.
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    Fuck I abhor kids. Count me in as the 5th INFp who doesn't wanna have kids and Gilly's explanation of weak and unvalued Si makes sense, even though I have never heard of it put like that before.

    Care to go more in depth, gilly?


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    I like them a bit. I have three of my own

    I will say this: I get crabby if I don't have time to myself, down time, time with my own friends, time with my husband without the kids--time to do things I want to do. And if that means hiring a babysitter, then I can do that. I'm not defined by my kids the way lots of moms are. I love them and I enjoy them and do my best as a mom but for me that means maintaining a sense of who I am. Otherwise I start to feel kind of resentful. I actually think it's better for the kids when a) the world doesn't revolve around them b) mom has a life that she enjoys and c) they are given the freedom to learn from their mistakes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron
    I like them a bit. I have three of my own

    I will say this: I get crabby if I don't have time to myself, down time, time with my own friends, time with my husband without the kids--time to do things I want to do. And if that means hiring a babysitter, then I can do that. I'm not defined by my kids the way lots of moms are. I love them and I enjoy them and do my best as a mom but for me that means maintaining a sense of who I am. Otherwise I start to feel kind of resentful. I actually think it's better for the kids when a) the world doesn't revolve around them b) mom has a life that she enjoys and c) they are given the freedom to learn from their mistakes.
    no i'm not infp, but i just have to say that this is exactly the way i look at it.

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    I love children, especially infants, so much so that I hope to volunteer in an orphanage someday. I think the mundane aspects of caregiving might weigh a bit heavily upon me, but all of that will be overshadowed by the relationships you have with your kids.
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    I've never been the type to engage children on my own accord, which is an ingrained habit/choice/preference, so raising children has never been high on my Things-To-Do-Before-I-Die list. Also, I don't subscribe to the idea of marriage, which puts me at odds with the vast majority of women and makes it unlikely that I'll be making babies with a partner (disregarding possible accidents ). If I did change my mind, I would adopt before making my own -- I've always believed that it is simply right to adopt suffering or disadvantaged children born elsewhere rather than add to the world's bloated population and subsequent problems.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux
    Fuck I abhor kids. Count me in as the 5th INFp who doesn't wanna have kids and Gilly's explanation of weak and unvalued Si makes sense, even though I have never heard of it put like that before.

    Care to go more in depth, gilly?
    You haven't voted yet.

    But I'm getting a bit of clear picture already. It's not a pattern.

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    Default Re: Question for INFP (IEI) only

    Quote Originally Posted by Jarno
    Today I've met my fourth INFP person, and from three out of four I know they don't want kids later on in their life. The fourth is unknown.
    I am later in my life and never wanted kids. They freak me out. Way too needy and totally dependent on you. Just can't handle that kind of total all-encompassing responsibility for another human being.

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    Default Re: Question for INFP (IEI) only

    Quote Originally Posted by Jarno
    Today I've met my fourth INFP person, and from three out of four I know they don't want kids later on in their life. The fourth is unknown.

    Is this a pattern, or coincidence?

    This poll is for INFP only.
    Yes, seems typical IME with INFps, too.

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