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    Default Do Deltas withdraw from emotionally expressive people?

    Hi all

    I would really appreciate any insights that you might have.

    In a group atmosphere, do Deltas tend to withdraw slightly if they view that the other members of the group are being too emotional/expressive/ungenuine? Do they associate massive emotions with being shallow, and/or respond negatively to 'too much' emotion?

    Many thanks in advance

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    You are probably experiencing a PoLR.

    I'm ok with massive emotions, just that I would be more of an observer than participant. I only get frustrated when others in the group talk about fun and enjoyment and meaningless stuff. And it's easy for others to know that I'm displeased 'cos I will always have this "wtf?" look on my face. Example:

    During a class outing
    ESTp classmate: Dang! You guys can't believe what a bad day I have today.
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    ESTp: I saw this white python on an online auction the other day and I decided to put in $8000 for it. I was confident that I will definitely get it 'cos all the other bidders couldn't bid past this amount, until another guy came in the last minute and dump in $10000. Oh man! Can you believe that? He won me by just two thousand freaking dollars?!
    Me: (thought: I wish you could have gotten the python so that it can slither towards you at night and suffocate you and let you experience a slow and painful death.)

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    Default Re: Is this typical Delta behaviour?

    Quote Originally Posted by Five
    Hi all

    I would really appreciate any insights that you might have.

    In a group atmosphere, do Deltas tend to withdraw slightly if they view that the other members of the group are being too emotional/expressive/ungenuine? Do they associate massive emotions with being shallow, and/or respond negatively to 'too much' emotion?

    Many thanks in advance

    Kindly,
    i come from a family of delta's so maybe i can comment. delta is basically anti-beta. deltas like small groups of people, relationally-based communication at a closer psychological distance, they follow the rules of etiquette strictly, and go for refinement.

    loud emotional displays don't fit into this nor do large group activities. i think they kind of intimidate or offend a lot of delta types. so you might see the kind of reaction you are describing five.

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    those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often

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    Quote Originally Posted by eunice
    You are probably experiencing a PoLR.

    I'm ok with massive emotions, just that I would be more of an observer than participant. I only get frustrated when others in the group talk about fun and enjoyment and meaningless stuff. And it's easy for others to know that I'm displeased 'cos I will always have this "wtf?" look on my face. Example:

    During a class outing
    ESTp classmate: Dang! You guys can't believe what a bad day I have today.
    Everyone
    ESTp: I saw this white python on an online auction the other day and I decided to put in $8000 for it. I was confident that I will definitely get it 'cos all the other bidders couldn't bid past this amount, until another guy came in the last minute and dump in $10000. Oh man! Can you believe that? He won me by just two thousand freaking dollars?!
    Me: (thought: I wish you could have gotten the python so that it can slither towards you at night and suffocate you and let you experience a slow and painful death.)
    huh. that interaction would not affect me that way at all.

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    those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often

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    I got a python you can....

    errr nevermind... forgot this was Delta

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    edited.

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    Default Re: Is this typical Delta behaviour?

    Quote Originally Posted by Five
    Hi all

    I would really appreciate any insights that you might have.

    In a group atmosphere, do Deltas tend to withdraw slightly if they view that the other members of the group are being too emotional/expressive/ungenuine? Do they associate massive emotions with being shallow, and/or respond negatively to 'too much' emotion?

    Many thanks in advance

    Kindly,
    Yeah probablly. I could probablly handle a full blown Fe atmosphere for a little while but its a pretty tiring. I do quite enjoy seeing how the other side works sometimes. Too much emotion i cant see as being a problem. Deltas aren't all stuck up like some people seem to think. I doubt anyone could say anything to shock me. I can even take people giving fat people / handicapped etc people shit as long as its not to their face. I think if someone doesn't have Fi you cant force it on them.

    The only thing i wont take is rudeness/meanness to myself/a friend/someone who could be hurt by it.
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    I don't think it is necessarily Fe polr. I'm like that. If that's Fe polr, I have an Fe polr. hmm.

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    Default Re: Is this typical Delta behaviour?

    Quote Originally Posted by Five
    In a group atmosphere, do Deltas tend to withdraw slightly if they view that the other members of the group are being too emotional/expressive/ungenuine? Do they associate massive emotions with being shallow, and/or respond negatively to 'too much' emotion?
    YES! At least I do. (And I think it would apply to most deltas. As Slacker Mom said, it's an Fi > Fe preference.)
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    Cool Many thanks to you all.

    Kindly,
    Five/Tanzhe

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    Quote Originally Posted by Five
    In a group atmosphere, do Deltas tend to withdraw slightly if they view that the other members of the group are being too emotional/expressive/ungenuine? Do they associate massive emotions with being shallow, and/or respond negatively to 'too much' emotion?
    I would agree with this. In a group, deltas also often withdraw from the whole group and engage in splintered off conversation with a few people for a while, before re-engaging back with the group as a whole.
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