Please tell me if you readily identify the most with any of those, as in "To get along with me, I need you to --"
They are based on the Enneagram, but a bit out of order.
- Be direct and honest with me. I don't care for playing games.
- Don't assume my assertive manner is an attack. It simply makes sense to me to be direct.
- When you disagree, tell me. When I'm wrong, tell me. If you have something helpful, tell me.
-Donít clip my wings. I need as much freedom as the situation will allow.
-Lighten up and letís have more fun together. Say something positive.
- Be patient if Iím not as structured or disciplined as you.
-Appreciate all the special things I do for you. And give back. Ask me what I would like.
- When you must criticize me, be sensitive. I'm trying to do a good job to please you.
- Don't take advantage of my good will and support. I can burn-out trying to help.
- Value and recognize my contribution, my specialness and gifts.
-Let me be me. And, remember, I need meaningful work to feel committed and alive.
- Be patient with my tendency to be "sensitive," and encourage me to do reality checks.
- Do what you say youíre going to do, and do it right so I don't have to take it on or pick up
the slack and then get resentful. Also, be more helpful so I don't have to carry so much.
- Appreciate how hard I work and how good a job I do. Sometimes you resist me.
- Pay attention to the details. And be proactive looking to catch the mistakes so I don't have to.
-Respect my need for privacy and space. I'm uncomfortable being engulfed with your needs.
-In working with me, have your facts ready and be objective, straight forward and succinct.
-Don't dismiss my analysis or ideas. I try to think things out very carefully.
-Be clear & honest in communicating with me; ambiguity or any withholding drives me crazy.
-Don't take it personally when I play devil's advocate. I am great troubleshooter.
-Be patient and understanding when I overreact to problems because of my anxiety.
- Be patient with my pace. I work best without constant monitoring and pressure tactics.
- If you must confront or get a commitment from me, an unpressured discussion will get results.
- Be sure you really have my attention if it's important. Remember, I need structure. Gently.
-Notice what I do and achieve. Encourage me. Praise is the gas that makes my motor go.
-Keep up with me. Don't slow me down or get in the way. I don't like interruptions, being
diverted, or having to carry your load.
-And do a good job so it I can be proud of what we accomplish.