Originally Posted by
Kim
Originally Posted by
Ezra
Originally Posted by
FDG
2-8w9/1w9
Yeah, Expat reminds me of Boss in his non-openly enthusiastic, rational, laid-back style. Shame Boss doesn't post any more. He was a safe guy.
Expat is actually a lot more animated and enthusiastic in real life than he appears to be here. A lot of gesturing and a very lively conversationalist, especially when he uses Te or discusses Fi matters. Just thought I'd throw that in here because it is really striking how people are different in real life than they come across here.
And he is, without a trace of doubt, an ENTj.
I don't doubt that.
That's why I find it hard to rely on methods like description to type people or trust people to type me correctly on this forum.
Let me say this; I have three ways of being that I am aware of at the moment. They are not "masks". They are simply four ways of being.
Firstly is when I am with my family or alone. I am very concentrative on what I do, am very thoughtful, and hate being interrupted when I'm working on something or am in task mode. I hate demands being placed on me. I am very quiet, and am relatively withdrawn. I am more INTj than any type at this time. When I post on here, this is the way I am currently. This is like my automatic state of being. I am also like this with my 6w7 friend, who I believe to be an ESFp. Also I act like this at parties, especially at those at which I know everyone (because I find their company extremely irritating and boring). I'm more logical and clear-headed during these times more than any other time. I love my own company. I am like an 8w9.
Secondly is when I am with one of my best friends, Liam, a 5w6 INTj. I am very enthusiastic and can often appear gushing. I love talking and expressing my ideas, and sharing thoughts with him. I like to discuss issues and problems, and how I/he/we can overcome them. I have only fought and argued seriously with him on one occasion. Sometimes I can be very dominating in conversation, but he usually doesn't mind. This is when I most relate to ENTp. I change from solo to sociable, and the change is very recognisable. I become a lot less clear thinking, and often am very pacey, like a 7w6.
Thirdly is when I am with my other best friend, Leon, a 7w6 ENFp. I become loud, dominating and often controlling. I am also somewhat offensive, and go out of my way to annoy him. Sometimes it's because I want to provoke a reaction, but it's mostly because I'm bored and high on energy. I am very mistrusting and challenging of what he says. I can laugh over-enthusiastically at what he talks about, because I'm always very restless and energetic when I'm around him. Even when I am with Liam as well, as long as I am with Leon, I act in this way. I consider it to be nearest to the description of ESTp. I very much take the appearance of an 8w7.
If you read that, you will understand why I find it so hard to type me, and why others on this forum have found me to be incompetent, difficult, and often attached to a certain image which, they believe, is probably not me. It's because I have three states, which are very, very different ways of being, and all of which are most certainly natural.