im often told that im a flirt, my cousins bug me all the time because i "flirt" with the waitress when we go out to eat. most of the time im just being polite, however i do enjoy flirting when its in a casual relaxed atmosphere where nothing is likely to happen (such as a restaurant).
actual relationships are a whole different ballpark though. whenever i meet someone who im actually interested in dating, (this happens fairly unoften because im picky as hell) it seems like i completely shut down and dont talk at all. i attribute a good amount of this to normal nervousness when starting a relationship, but i think part of it might be type related. it seems like enfp's are very reserved with their actual emotions. i myself will hide my real and true feelings from even my best friend most of the time. i think the problem i have with flirting with girls im actually interested in is that its revealing a part of myself that i dont reveal to anyone, even if the words are the same thing i use on everyone, if i actually mean it its harder to say. if that makes any sense.
my question is if any other enfp's experience this phenomenon