Maybe you are just attracted to her and there is no rhyme nor reason for it?
With the moon statement, I think a supply of Ni at her reaction would be, "why did you say that? I'm trying to share something with you right now and you acted so rude?" That would probably throw her off guard because its probably not how you are most other times and it is a very Fi thing to explore. IMO,
accelerate the confliction. Because otherwise you are just kinda wasting your time, you know what I mean? She makes you feel great and she is fun, but its just not going to work. Sucks :/ but learn what you can and move forward man. Don't waste your time on people who don't
ignite your soul. I mean, if you want to learn about humanity and the human condition and who and what you are, then sure, do that, otherwise, just call your loses. That's my advice, it's what I would do if I was in your shoes.
As to why she is not picking up your Ni, hmm, well, maybe she senses its not genuine? Maybe she's not all that interested because it feels like it is coming from Ne more than Ni? Maybe she is watching you when she punches you..seeing how you respond? Maybe she is assembling her "its cold let's go" unconsciously from you, seeing that its what you are needing and she thinks that is what she is providing for you? A ESE is going to be aware of such things as well, I know from my own exp. Most times, people are doing things out of love. It sounds like it could be sympathy for you in that moment.