INTjs and ESFps who are trying to get along are sort of funny to watch... The ESFp says something as if it's fact and waits for the INTj to correct it. They then use whatever the INTj has just said in a new "theory" on the subject (or at least a somewhat related subject
), and the INTj disagrees again, and the ESFp makes another assertion for the INTj to disagree with.
The INTj is thinking, "There's no way I can break this down so that it's simple enough for the ESFp to understand... she keeps connecting what I say with things it shouldn't be connected to, and I can't even use her own understanding of things to explain it in a way that will make sense to her because she's constantly changing her perception of things."
The ESFp is thinking, "lol wth? He talks like he knows everything, but does he ever leave the house? And what he's saying doesn't even make sense anyways because when I try to find examples or ways of utilizing the information, he just says I'm wrong without giving me information that I can actually use. Doesn't he understand that being smart doesn't matter if you never actually DO anything?"
Most of my friends have been ESFp, and I was married to an INTj, so I've had a lot of opportunity to watch them interact. The INTj thinks of the ESFps as psycho and not that bright (and pointless), and the ESFps think of the INTj as boring and easily annoyed (and pointless).