Today I am having to wonder if my ESFj boss is just simply evil if that is possible. I find her to be very dramatic, controlling, attention seeking and spiteful. I try to ignore her most times but that is just a big mistake on my part because the more I ignore her the more attention seeking she becomes. I have explained to her many times that I am just a naturally quiet person and that I do not dislike her. The truth is that she is extremely talkative and cannot stand her own company to the point where she actively pushes herself on others IMO. If I give her some attention she simply becomes more demanding and needy. Most recently she gained access to my computer password at work and falsified a lot of company records under my code...this has gotten me into a whole lot of trouble and gained a whole lot of attention and activity for her.
A few weeks ago she baked a cake for me (I did not ask her to that) and I think she was not satisfied that I was esthusiastic and appreciative enough and I think she has been upset since then hence the revenge attack. These revenge attacks are very commonplace for her...especially when she does "nice" things for us but we are not as responsive as she would like. To me, she has such a strong desire to care for someone else that she will often get people into a lot of trouble deliberately so that she can rescue and mother them. I feel incredibly suffocated and annoyed by ESFjs at present. I believe this women is a very unhealthy ESFj ( and she is very much like the description of unhealthy E2s http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/TypeTwoOverview.asp http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/TypeTwo.asp)but one of my closet friends who is a healthier ESFj is also very attention demanding and extremely needy. I am just not sure how to deal with the drama and neediness that I experience with ESFjs anymore . I feel like I just do not have the energy or desire to give them what they need.