Well the ESFj thing doesn't seem to be working out. She's a decent person and all, but....
The person who I've really hit it off with is an INTj.
She's very gentle, a few years younger than I am. I think she's an INFp exertion type, for what it's worth. She knows she's an INTj after seeing the profile at socionics.com. (although I suspected it from the beginning)
Not bad... except there are things she definitely will not offer, nor does she feel wrong in not offering them. This despite our politically aligned natures. (we're both liberal)