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    Type One

    Type one people care more than most about whether things are as they should be. They can become trapped by compulsive judgment and correction, of themselves or of others. One of their talents is an intuitive ability to sense what is true, good, and right.

    Ego fixation: resentment
    Holy idea: perfection
    Passion: anger
    Virtue: serenity

    Health Levels

    wise acceptance
    discerning rationality
    self-disciplined ethics

    preachy idealism
    rigid logic
    perfectionistic judgment

    vitriolic self-righteousness
    hypocritical obsession
    sadistic condemnation


    one with a two wing

    general description

    Average 1/2 combines the dry, rational, practical concerns of type one with the wet, other-directedness of two. The emotional repression of one is somewhat balanced by the self-defined goodness and desire-to-please of two. 1/2s typically care more about appearance than 1/9, and because of their oneish perfectionism they often dress immaculately. The pride from their two-wing makes them more visibly sensitive to criticism than 1/9, although both subtypes are internally very hard on themselves. Unlike 2/1, they would usually rather do the right thing than please someone else, although they want to do both if possible.

    balanced and transcendent states

    Healthy 1/2s begin to loosen up somewhat, becoming able to let go of their righteous judgements. They begin to allow for the possibility that their views might not be entirely accurate. Their other-directed corrections soften up and actually become helpful rather than intrusive. They become able to see the difference between proud perfectionism and healthy tolerance of differences.

    When 1/2s attain spiritual opening, they can become teachers of the highest order. One integrates to seven, bringing in joy and enthusiasm, while two integrates to four, replacing selfish manipulation with genuine compassionate concern for others. Deep oneish wisdom combines with twoish loving generosity for an intensely personal kind of guidance, even when they are addressing large groups. Somehow advanced 1/2s seem to know exactly what is needed for maximum teaching value in any situation. They teach by asking the right questions, gently guiding the student to deeper insights.

    unbalanced and unhealthy states

    Unhealthy 1/2s run into problems when twoish pride interacts with oneish perfectionism. A tremendous inner conflict rages between the two-wing that says "I am a good, generous person" and the oneish view that sees every tiny error as a sign of fundamental worthlessness. One disintegrates to four, where self-critical introspection creates a spiral of hopelessness, while two disintegrates to eight, so that when the heavily repressed anger erupts it does so in sudden (but usually very short) fits of hyper-critical rage, sometimes accompanied by overt violence. Naturally these violent fits then become more food for the self-judgment spiral, as the 1/2 falls into guilty remorse.

    In the worst cases, repressed oneish anger and hostile twoish pride combine, creating intense sessions of wrenching, hand-wringing despair. If my anger is not expressed towards others, then it is directed at myself. I am not good enough if I cannot meet my own standards. I must work harder and harder, or I will fail my own increasingly difficult self-tests. Self-punishment is necessary, in the form of grueling work days, endless tormented repetitions of not-quite perfect tasks, and every kind of refusal to experience any sort of pleasure. Suicide is possible.

    physical appearance

    Most 1/2s take care to appear neat, clean, and orderly. Hair is carefully clipped, especially facial hair (if any) and clothing is just so. Beards are almost always partial, shaved in places for a distinguished effect. Physically they are usually on the thin side, although of course there are exceptions. They hold their heads high. Sometimes it seems as if they are looking down their noses at the world. When they smile there might be a condescending feel. Maybe the eyebrows are lifted perpetually into points, showing a judgmental quality.

    callings

    Some 1/2s find work that expresses an urge to help other people become perfect. Teachers of all kinds, but particularly languages, humanities, science, and medicine. Doctors, dentists,
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    Relationships by Enneagram Type


    Notes: These excerpts were taken from Helen Palmer's book "The Enneagram In Work And Love". Descriptions are available for type pairings 1-3, 1-6, 1-9, 2-5, 3-4, 3-9, 3-5, 4-7, ...
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    Enneagram Talk Styles, Essence, Passions and Fixations



    Enneagram Talk Styles

    One way to type those around you is to examine their Enneagram talk style. Each type has a unique approach to speaking and writing, which can be picked up on in a matter of minutes. The following is a list of each type and their general mode of communication:

    TYPE 1: SERMONS/PREACH & TEACH
    Teaching, preaching, finding fault, admonishing, correcting, reminding of obligations
    Self-talk: ‘That’s not right’

    TYPE 2: SYMPATHIES/HELP & ADVICE/PRAISE & COMPLIMENTS
    Befriending, supporting, comforting, offering friendly advice, pitching in, meeting needs, getting personal
    Self-talk: ‘You need me’

    TYPE 3: SALES PITCHES/PROPAGANDA/SELF-PROMOTION
    Promoting, advertising, performing, exclaiming, motivational speeches, success stories
    Self-talk: ‘Watch me shine’

    TYPE 4: LAMENTS/SAD STORIES
    Longing, lamenting, extolling, yearning, regretful sighs, poetic turns of phrase, self-expression
    Self-talk: ‘I’m feeling …’

    TYPE 5: LECTURES/THESES/TREATISES
    Detailed explanations, informative displays of knowledge, definitions, facts, precise instructions, logical, rational arguments
    Self-talk: ‘I’m thinking …’

    TYPE 6: CAUTIONS/CAVEATS/SETTING LIMITS
    Questions, warnings, second-guessing, trouble-shooting, worst-case scenarios, defending / testing
    Self-talk: ‘But what if …’

    TYPE 7: ANECDOTES/BRAINSTORMING/STORYTELLING
    Joking, laughing, story-telling, entertaining, shifting gears, changing venues, sampling, imagining, checking out, moving on
    Self-talk: ‘On a lighter note’

    TYPE 8: COMMANDS/DIATRIBES/LAYING TRIPS
    Arguing, debating, opposing, taking aim, scoring points, parting shots, military metaphors
    Self-talk: ‘Do this my way’

    TYPE 9: CHRONICLES/SAGAS/EPICS
    Recounting sagas, epics, generalizing, day-dreaming aloud, voicing vague notions, wondering, meandering
    Self-talk: ‘Nice ’n easy’

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    Each type brings its particular art to a conversation and can add to it by natural talent. Each type also has a conversation stopper; this is how we end up blocking a healthy conversation. We can do this unconsciously when experiencing discomfort or anxiety due to our fixations.

    1. Art - Grace; Stopper - Judgment (Grace is healing, forgiveness and compassion)
    2. Art - Comfort; Stopper - Arrogance (Comfort is physical, emotional and intellectual)
    3. Art - Appreciation; Stopper - Untruth (Appreciation is maximizing strengths and minimizing weaknesses
    4. Art - Originality; Stopper - Imagination (Originality is vitality, creativity and eccentricities)
    5. Art - Education; Stopper - Cynicism (Education is teaching, listening and learning)
    6. Art - Awareness; Stopper - Rejection (Awareness is noticing thoughts, choices, and emotions in ourselves and in others)
    7. Art - Joy; Stopper - Distractions (Joy is growing into the extraordinary possibilities of being alive)
    8. Art - Trust; Stopper - Intimidation (Trust is built with equality and leadership)
    9. Art - Acceptance; Stopper - Withdrawal (Acceptance is being available, welcoming and engaging)


    However, we also need conversation stoppers to help set reasonable limits, establish personal boundaries, and protect us from unhealthy conversations (which are boundary violating). When stoppers they are used to relate to others, they are poisonous, and lend to poor quality conversations.

    1. We need judgment to determine what is and isn't helpful.
    2. We need arrogance to speak up for ourselves.
    3. We need untruth to avoid truth paralysis so that we can move forward.
    4. We need imagination to give us a broader perspective.
    5. We need cynicism/skepticism to test what is said.
    6. We need to reject putdowns and excuses.
    7. We need distractions to open us to new possibilities.
    8. We need intimidation to forcefully end a conversation on the spot.
    9. We need to withdraw physically, emotionally or mentally when we face discouragement.

    Types Myths and Facts

    Type 1 Myth: Ones are “neat freaks” and are inflexible.
    Fact: What Ones rigidly adhere to and judge as right or wrong depends on the content of each one's internal standards, which can vary greatly. Thus, for example, if a One holds the standard that being flexible is the right way to be and maintaining neatness and order is a waste of time, then that person will not be particularly neat and will be judgmental about the inflexibility of others.

    Type 2 Myth: Twos just give to get and underneath are very needy.
    Fact: Twos often give generously and only appear extra-needy because they repress so much need and desire, making them appear extra “thirsty” or needy.

    Type 3 Myth: Threes care only about their own goals, efficiency, ...
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    On Enneagram Triads



    Also see:
    http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/intro.asp#centers
    http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/harmonics.asp
    http://www.fitzel.ca/enneagram/triads.html
    http://enneasite.com/the-centers/


    Faculty Triads: Gut, Head, Heart

    The Gut Triad (8,9,1)

    The gut triad deals with issues of anger and autonomy. The emotion of rage is most pronounced in this triad, though it is only openly expressed in type 8. For ones, the anger manifests as righteous indignation, sometimes in the silent form. Nines have trouble generating anger due to internalized sense of insignificance. There was a sense in childhood of not being able to assert one's space, and so there's a sense of needing to carve out a space for oneself ...
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    A Directional Theory of the Enneagram



    The Enneagram explains much about behavior. But what explains the Enneagram? Why are there 9 types, and not some other number? What are the first principles that define the types? Why do the lines of integration and disintegration point the way they do? How does the Enneagram relate to basic psychological ideas, such as emotions and motivations? Currently, there is no widely accepted theory that answers these simple questions. This article proposes a two-dimensional extension of Karen Horney's triad that may shed light on some of these questions, though many questions remain. This 2-dimensional structure is surprisingly good at generating the traits of the 9 types from first principles, and can also explain most of the lines of integration. This article also highlights the connection between the Enneagram and basic ...
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    Enneagram Health Levels

    Enneagram health levels (aka levels of development) provide an invaluable tool for determining one's own enneagram type, as well as identifying unhealthy patterns of behavior. This contribution to the enneagram theory has been ...
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