How Negativist are IEEs? - Page 2

Mariella · 03-05-2010, 01:28 AM

This is a good example of why I hate those Renin dichotomies and why I think they aren't worth diddly.

The only way I see it in myself is that I often speak in the negative instead of the positive. Like, "That's not bad!" when I mean "That's really good!" Even "no problem" instead of "sure."

WorkaholicsAnon · 03-05-2010, 02:13 AM

Oh yeah the other way I see the negativism in myself is, if I'm feeling nervous about something, or any sort of stress or pressure, to make myself feel better, I envision all the bad possibilities that could happen that I could think of. If the worst possible outcomes really aren't THAT terrible, the pressure will diffuse right then and there. If the bad outcomes ARE bad/terrifying/humiliating, I will compulsively try to make sure I'm extra prepared from those standpoints, so I can lessen the chances of them happening. Sometimes my preparation can't guarantee the latter, whether because it's just impossible (such as knowing everything about a subject for a test or random questions from an audience) or because I've procrastinated leaving me with inadequate time to prepare the way I would need to to feel calm. In such cases, I will be a nervous wreck going into the event.

03-05-2010, 09:11 AM

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Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon

Oh yeah the other way I see the negativism in myself is, if I'm feeling nervous about something, or any sort of stress or pressure, to make myself feel better, I envision all the bad possibilities that could happen that I could think of. If the worst possible outcomes really aren't THAT terrible, the pressure will diffuse right then and there. If the bad outcomes ARE bad/terrifying/humiliating, I will compulsively try to make sure I'm extra prepared from those standpoints, so I can lessen the chances of them happening. Sometimes my preparation can't guarantee the latter, whether because it's just impossible (such as knowing everything about a subject for a test or random questions from an audience) or because I've procrastinated leaving me with inadequate time to prepare the way I would need to to feel calm. In such cases, I will be a nervous wreck going into the event.

If only, "don't worry, everything will be fine" worked on everyone.

WorkaholicsAnon · 03-05-2010, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Cyclops

If only, "don't worry, everything will be fine" worked on everyone.

That helps too, especially if it comes from a dual.

03-05-2010, 02:13 AM	#22 (permalink)
WorkaholicsAnon Distinguished Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 1,356	Oh yeah the other way I see the negativism in myself is, if I'm feeling nervous about something, or any sort of stress or pressure, to make myself feel better, I envision all the bad possibilities that could happen that I could think of. If the worst possible outcomes really aren't THAT terrible, the pressure will diffuse right then and there. If the bad outcomes ARE bad/terrifying/humiliating, I will compulsively try to make sure I'm extra prepared from those standpoints, so I can lessen the chances of them happening. Sometimes my preparation can't guarantee the latter, whether because it's just impossible (such as knowing everything about a subject for a test or random questions from an audience) or because I've procrastinated leaving me with inadequate time to prepare the way I would need to to feel calm. In such cases, I will be a nervous wreck going into the event. __________________ Fi-IEE Last edited by WorkaholicsAnon; 03-05-2010 at 02:24 AM.

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03-05-2010, 01:28 AM	#21 (permalink)
Mariella Forum Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 6,926 Blog Entries: 2	This is a good example of why I hate those Renin dichotomies and why I think they aren't worth diddly. The only way I see it in myself is that I often speak in the negative instead of the positive. Like, "That's not bad!" when I mean "That's really good!" Even "no problem" instead of "sure."