Duals dislike eachother more often then expected - Page 2

Logos · 09-06-2009, 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Huitzilopochtli

Not too true, among the democrats one drives the other to create - NTs use science (value of functionality) to create art (value of aesthetics), as technology and propaganda exist primarily to enhance comfort and inspire emotion, whereas SFs use art to create a science based on its elements, such as political theory or music theory, or even astronomy (you have to value what you sense before it has enough meaning to inspire thought and intuition); the superid is just as functional as the ego but less expressive because it is asleep, it dreams but does not accomplish anything separately from the ego. If you look at historical movements in philosophy, such as the renaissance or romanticism or communism, the 2 are always tied - one drives the other to keep each half from becoming stagnant; among autocrats it is about NF morale (cause) and ST pragmatism (effect).

You are perhaps missing Azeroffs basic point that the INTx and the ESFx almost stand in opposite corners of the social spheres so it is easy for them to miss each other quite easily.

Krig the Viking · 09-06-2009, 05:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Logos

You are perhaps missing Azeroffs basic point that the INTx and the ESFx almost stand in opposite corners of the social spheres so it is easy for them to miss each other quite easily.

True.

Blaze · 09-06-2009, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Huitzilopochtli

Not too true, among the democrats one drives the other to create - NTs use science (value of functionality) to create art (value of aesthetics), as technology and propaganda exist primarily to enhance comfort and inspire emotion, whereas SFs use art to create a science based on its elements, such as political theory or music theory, or even astronomy (you have to value what you sense before it has enough meaning to inspire thought and intuition); the superid is just as functional as the ego but less expressive because it is asleep, it dreams but does not accomplish anything separately from the ego. If you look at historical movements in philosophy, such as the renaissance or romanticism or communism, the 2 are always tied - one drives the other to keep each half from becoming stagnant; among autocrats it is about NF morale (cause) and ST pragmatism (effect).

nevertheless, these are very cool ideas and observations.

Ryu · 09-06-2009, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Jarno

I'm just trying to create a response.

Roy's got a response for you:

Roy Responds

electric sheep · 09-06-2009, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Logos

You are perhaps missing Azeroffs basic point that the INTx and the ESFx almost stand in opposite corners of the social spheres so it is easy for them to miss each other quite easily.

but they always manage to cross paths. It's inevitable.

**Khola** · 09-07-2009, 01:15 AM

I can sympathise with this - the dual that is currently in my sights has been in and around my social circles for coming up 7 years and when I first met him I wanted to strangle him (heheh) but the more time I spend around him, the more I value him - I see him as an indispensable part of my life now. It certainly provides some real social oddities. *giggle*

krae · 09-07-2009, 10:39 AM

"Than expected"? You mean it didn't worked as "seen on TV"?

yeah gotcha trying to get a response, but good stuff happens, love exist yeah, is what you want to hear it seemed to me

Joy · 09-07-2009, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Ryu

Roy's got a response for you:

Roy Responds

Wow. Dubs sucks.

Except, of course, for the ninja info cards scene.

YouTube - MY NINJA INFO CARDS (KAJ REMIX)

redbaron · 09-07-2009, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Huitzilopochtli

There is a probably a strong subconscious bond between duals that makes them feel emotionally or ethically invested in each other without regard to context; however, the polarity of how they feel about each other consciously can fluctuate wildly depending on the circumstances; for instance, children will often tease and pick on their crushes. I believe that is possibly due to the ego and superid interference that occurs when duals are present. Though duals do not share ideological optimism or consciousness of temperament, they both are either process or result, meaning that they will behave similarly over a long interval of time due to the the direction of phenomenal response as though intertwined by fate; since they share quadra values, they will also respond at nearly the same time, and because they share rationality, they will have complementing accepting and creative ego functions that constitute a shared channel in which specific information produced by one may interefere contextually with the other's unconscious IM. In duals, the temperament switch causes the vital functions of one to be aligned to the mental functions of the other, so one is potentially subconsciously manifesting simultaneously what the other is manifesting consciously, often giving the effect of finishing each other's sentences. The opposing optimistisms will keep the relationship from becoming stale or stagnant, and the temperament switch will keep one dual from continuously irritating the ego IM of the other. Because the superego of one reflects the id of the other, accumulated habits and biases will also complement and reinforce each other's driving impulses; for instance, superid IM which supports feedback for the id will be supported naturally and excessively by the conscious functions of the dual, creating mutual benefit, reinforcement, and interest. Because the conscious functions mainly produce denial of the unconscious by changing the direction of the IM of the subconscious functions, one may feel as though they are understood best by their dual, to whom nearly exclusively the denial is far less consciously apparent than the motive, and who is always consciously supporting that subconscious IM of the first which is most secretly yearned but least realized. For this reason, socially blind emotional (id) and ethical (superego) responses may override the common courtesy, etiquette, and other civilities normally processed (and more highly socially valued within the quadra) by the ego and superid.

Wow, looking back at this really makes me feel IEI...

this is great. wow.

and despite the cold analytical feel to this post, it makes me want to cry.

Danielle · 09-07-2009, 07:35 PM

I was thinking about this over the weekend, while I was out of town at an extended family gathering. It struck me that duality may be more beneficial the closer the psychological distance between the parties, which is the opposite of conflicting relations.

Ryu · 09-07-2009, 07:49 PM

I am hesitant to label relationships as 'beneficial' or not.

silverchris9 · 09-07-2009, 08:38 PM

You could reframe the word "beneficial" as meaning "expressing more of the potentials of a dual interpersonal relationship as described by the theory."

It took twoish years before I became friends with my I-think-SLE friend, and I don't know that I'm close friends with any other SLEs.

One possible influence to this is how many interactions one has had with activity/dual as opposed to superego/conflictor. Since quasi-identicals are superficially similar, one who has spent a lot of time with superegos or conflictors may learn through conditionally to consciously or subconsciously associate certain superficial traits shared by quasi-identical pairs with negative experiences, so that they avoid both quasi-identicals. For example, an SLE who has spent a lot of time around EIIs and little around IEIs may see an IEI's idealism as similar to the EII's brand of moral idealism, and this may turn him or her off of the IEI, not because of how the IEI is, but because the IEI reminds him/her of a similar but extremely unpleasant individual/situation/expereince/etc.

Ryu · 09-07-2009, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by silverchris9

You could reframe the word "beneficial" as meaning "expressing more of the potentials of a dual interpersonal relationship as described by the theory."

And what are the potentials as described by the theory?

...?

The potential to have a wonderful, great relationship with someone else?
I have very good relationships with people from a few types.

Really, though, I see how it's much easier to say "duals get along well" than try to be positive and less normative, and detach "good/bad" from explanations. That's how I talk about things when I'm introducing people to socionics myself. I wanted to comment that there is (and should be) a more advanced and more objective interpretation of what dual relationships are, as there seems to be a trend to think that duality = relational bliss. I don't think, however, that Danielle particularly is a person to believe that duality = bliss; I wasn't trying to correct her, per se.

silverchris9 · 09-07-2009, 09:20 PM

I dunno. Basically, the information you put out is received well, and the information you receive is packaged how you like it. Some possible feelings and benefits that may flow from this include comfort, ease of communication, and the warm-fuzzies.

It's hard to describe because it's hard to transcend one's own prejudices/expectations. I very nearly used the phrase "they get shit done" in trying to describe what is positive about dual relationships, but of course this is something that an IEI would like especially about an SLE. Anyway, what am I doing justifying the concept of duality to you? Ask the lady who made it up. (She's dead though, right?)

EDIT: Ah, once I saw your edit (or my computer loaded the whole page, I'm not sure) I understood what you were getting at. True. There should be something better than vague duality = better crap.

betterthandead · 12-25-2009, 05:54 PM

Most likely subtype differences. I dislike my own subtype (Ti) as well as my dual's subtype which doesn't correlate to mine. (Let's say Si), I view Si's as rather self indulgent in their own sensory perceptions rather than being communicative and thoughtful like an (Fe) would.

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Originally Posted by Jarno

Today I saw it again.

This situation actually happened twice with the same types.

A shy INFj walked away from the group, without saying that she was going home.
The ESTj said afterwards, that it was totally unsocial of her, and kept talking about it for a while.

It's only when duals interact with eachother that they start a likening in eachother. Otherwise it's often that they don't like eachother. I remember an SEE at my work who hated 'nerds' (that hurt me! :-)

A SLE friend of mine truly hates 'those fucking idealists' (I guess IEI's can be seen like that)

So duals always dislike eachother, except when in close interaction together.

09-07-2009, 01:15 AM	#26 (permalink)
Khola Necessary cuddles Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 3,212 Blog Entries: 5	I can sympathise with this - the dual that is currently in my sights has been in and around my social circles for coming up 7 years and when I first met him I wanted to strangle him (heheh) but the more time I spend around him, the more I value him - I see him as an indispensable part of my life now. It certainly provides some real social oddities. giggle __________________ I don't effing know ... ask me when I'm more awake

09-07-2009, 10:39 AM	#27 (permalink)
krae Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 475	"Than expected"? You mean it didn't worked as "seen on TV"? yeah gotcha trying to get a response, but good stuff happens, love exist yeah, is what you want to hear it seemed to me __________________ When we lose ourselves in constructive activity, our neurotic suffering is gone.

09-07-2009, 07:35 PM	#30 (permalink)
Danielle Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 193 Blog Entries: 2	I was thinking about this over the weekend, while I was out of town at an extended family gathering. It struck me that duality may be more beneficial the closer the psychological distance between the parties, which is the opposite of conflicting relations. __________________ EII 4w5

09-07-2009, 08:38 PM	#32 (permalink)
silverchris9 wants to be a writer. Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: New York Posts: 1,046	You could reframe the word "beneficial" as meaning "expressing more of the potentials of a dual interpersonal relationship as described by the theory." It took twoish years before I became friends with my I-think-SLE friend, and I don't know that I'm close friends with any other SLEs. One possible influence to this is how many interactions one has had with activity/dual as opposed to superego/conflictor. Since quasi-identicals are superficially similar, one who has spent a lot of time with superegos or conflictors may learn through conditionally to consciously or subconsciously associate certain superficial traits shared by quasi-identical pairs with negative experiences, so that they avoid both quasi-identicals. For example, an SLE who has spent a lot of time around EIIs and little around IEIs may see an IEI's idealism as similar to the EII's brand of moral idealism, and this may turn him or her off of the IEI, not because of how the IEI is, but because the IEI reminds him/her of a similar but extremely unpleasant individual/situation/expereince/etc. __________________ IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best. Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music... I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.

09-07-2009, 09:20 PM	#34 (permalink)
silverchris9 wants to be a writer. Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: New York Posts: 1,046	I dunno. Basically, the information you put out is received well, and the information you receive is packaged how you like it. Some possible feelings and benefits that may flow from this include comfort, ease of communication, and the warm-fuzzies. It's hard to describe because it's hard to transcend one's own prejudices/expectations. I very nearly used the phrase "they get shit done" in trying to describe what is positive about dual relationships, but of course this is something that an IEI would like especially about an SLE. Anyway, what am I doing justifying the concept of duality to you? Ask the lady who made it up. (She's dead though, right?) EDIT: Ah, once I saw your edit (or my computer loaded the whole page, I'm not sure) I understood what you were getting at. True. There should be something better than vague duality = better crap. __________________ IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best. Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music... I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.

09-07-2009, 07:49 PM	#31 (permalink)
Ryu Fear not Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: zavershitelem Types: LSE & 8w9 Posts: 8,023 Blog Entries: 33	I am hesitant to label relationships as 'beneficial' or not.

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