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Old 04-16-2009, 08:29 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Sexual Compatibility in the Quadras

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in the 2nd Quadra (Beta) the nature of sexual caresses is of different kind. They do not like feeble strokes, but tend to intense effect on the partner’s skin, which manifests in strong embraces, in squeezing each other. The Commander and The Inspector both being sensory types, are very jealous: just the thought of the partner’s infidelity may poison their life. It is not mere accident that William Shakespeare, The Mentor, colorfully described how Othello (The Inspector) squeezed Desdemona trying to kill her. Let us consider a real example: a married couple, students, The Inspector (husband) and The Mentor (wife), live in a dormitory. Since the wife is a sociable extravert, her husband is often jealous of her contacts with the neighbors. The scenes much resemble those described by Shakespeare: “Whom have you been with?” the husband asks and puts his hands onto the wife’s neck. She shrieks, and he gets scared and releases her.
I think the bold are quite accurate, I always like it when Beta ST females touches me, I mean I like to be touch regardless, laugh out loud, but I find that alpha SF's touch is very freeble stroke, which either doesn't give me an intense effect or I would react in a very unsure way. When it comes to ESTps their touch seemed very intense and somehow when they do it I feel compel to want to do the same to them, when it comes to ISTj touching me, There is a certain feel to it that gives vibes around my whole body, it is unlike any kind of touch i have ever felt, even a lingering tickles of feeling of sensation felt throught my body. And that comes from an ISTj I have just met, and i was amazed...

please share your sexual experiences with people around your Quadra.
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My mom who I think is highly identical to you in all aspect except for intelligence, hasn't touch me in a long time...
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I think the bold are quite accurate, I always like it when Beta ST females touches me, I mean I like to be touch regardless, laugh out loud, but I find that alpha SF's touch is very freeble stroke, which either doesn't give me an intense effect or I would react in a very unsure way. When it comes to ESTps their touch seemed very intense and somehow when they do it I feel compel to want to do the same to them, when it comes to ISTj touching me, There is a certain feel to it that gives vibes around my whole body, it is unlike any kind of touch i have ever felt, even a lingering tickles of feeling of sensation felt throught my body. And that comes from an ISTj I have just met, and i was amazed...

please share your sexual experiences with people around your Quadra.
LOL, you literally typed "laugh out loud." Amazing.

Well I don't really want to get into any detail, being somewhat private by nature, but the Beta ST that I dated for a while was very forceful compared to the others. There were no, erm, "feeble strokes"...? So I guess I am just reinforcing what you are saying. I think it would make sense if it was somewhat type related (aggressor, victim, caregiver, infantile and all that).
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Old 04-17-2009, 01:25 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Many threads have already been started on this topic before. Basically, there was a consensus that verified Victor Gulenko's article on "Erotic Attitudes."
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I wholeheartedly agree with this and now that I've been there and experienced it, I don't think I could go back. Gosh, I'm addicted to ESTp's now, yet am ESTp-less . And I'm not necessarily talking about sex here. It's every single experience of touch. I didn't realize how attracted I would be to it until I truly experienced it. The first time my ESTp ex kissed me, we were to the side on the dance floor, slow dancing. Then he does the whole I look up and he goes for a kiss thing and I turn my face to turn him down because I thought it ws too soon. So he asks "what, is it too soon?" and I nod. So after a couple of seconds he grabs my face with both of his hands and plants a huge one on me before I knew what hit me. lol <3 He had me pinned tight enough so that I couldn't get away, not that I would have gone anywhere! No one had ever kissed me like that before. I can't even begin to describe how big of a turn on that is to me. The confidence and boldness. Makes me feel wanted.

We used to crack up laughing when I would playfully mock him about how rough he always was. Never gentle. And I used to love it.
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Concerning Delta STs, they seem to both know exactly how to touch and at the same time unsure. It's really cute. I feel like they pick up on my signals, but they aren't confident enough in them, but once they notice me responding positively, they keep going. I consider them "rough" people who try to be gentle, which is a crazy amount of charming for me.
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I wholeheartedly agree with this and now that I've been there and experienced it, I don't think I could go back. Gosh, I'm addicted to ESTp's now, yet am ESTp-less . And I'm not necessarily talking about sex here. It's every single experience of touch. I didn't realize how attracted I would be to it until I truly experienced it. The first time my ESTp ex kissed me, we were to the side on the dance floor, slow dancing. Then he does the whole I look up and he goes for a kiss thing and I turn my face to turn him down because I thought it ws too soon. So he asks "what, is it too soon?" and I nod. So after a couple of seconds he grabs my face with both of his hands and plants a huge one on me before I knew what hit me. lol <3 He had me pinned tight enough so that I couldn't get away, not that I would have gone anywhere! No one had ever kissed me like that before. I can't even begin to describe how big of a turn on that is to me. The confidence and boldness. Makes me feel wanted.

We used to crack up laughing when I would playfully mock him about how rough he always was. Never gentle. And I used to love it.
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Numbers, please go into greater detail about how your Mom touches you.
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I wholeheartedly agree with this and now that I've been there and experienced it, I don't think I could go back. Gosh, I'm addicted to ESTp's now, yet am ESTp-less . And I'm not necessarily talking about sex here. It's every single experience of touch. I didn't realize how attracted I would be to it until I truly experienced it. The first time my ESTp ex kissed me, we were to the side on the dance floor, slow dancing. Then he does the whole I look up and he goes for a kiss thing and I turn my face to turn him down because I thought it ws too soon. So he asks "what, is it too soon?" and I nod. So after a couple of seconds he grabs my face with both of his hands and plants a huge one on me before I knew what hit me. lol <3 He had me pinned tight enough so that I couldn't get away, not that I would have gone anywhere! No one had ever kissed me like that before. I can't even begin to describe how big of a turn on that is to me. The confidence and boldness. Makes me feel wanted.
Tbh, that would really bother me. I don't like surprises, I don't like someone disrespecting the boundaries I set, and I really don't like someone being confident in how far they can go with me. God, I'd probably react badly to something like that. “What made you think it was okay to do that??” And oh god, if he said it was because he could tell I wanted it—“I could read it in your body language”—or something… holyshit. I would be so pissed. lol.

I don't know, I just want to establish things first. Don't assume you can act like this with me, or treat me like this, or that I want this or that. You'll find those things out after a while, and then you can act on them. But man, cocky guys who think they know what I want are in for a surprise.
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Tbh, that would really bother me. I don't like surprises, I don't like someone disrespecting the boundaries I set, and I really don't like someone being confident in how far they can go with me. God, I'd probably react badly to something like that. “What made you think it was okay to do that??” And oh god, if he said it was because he could tell I wanted it—“I could read it in your body language”—or something… holyshit. I would be so pissed. lol.

I don't know, I just want to establish things first. Don't assume you can act like this with me, or treat me like this, or that I want this or that. You'll find those things out after a while, and then you can act on them. But man, cocky guys who think they know what I want are in for a surprise.
That's right: the right way to do it, would simply be to do it gently without asking, so that she can't get angry for the fact that she has said no
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Tbh, that would really bother me. I don't like surprises, I don't like someone disrespecting the boundaries I set, and I really don't like someone being confident in how far they can go with me. God, I'd probably react badly to something like that. “What made you think it was okay to do that??” And oh god, if he said it was because he could tell I wanted it—“I could read it in your body language”—or something… holyshit. I would be so pissed. lol.

I don't know, I just want to establish things first. Don't assume you can act like this with me, or treat me like this, or that I want this or that. You'll find those things out after a while, and then you can act on them. But man, cocky guys who think they know what I want are in for a surprise.
I agree. I've never needed to slap a guy so far, but in that situation, I just might.

However, the couple of ESTps I've gone out w/ were really respectful and I never had a problem. I went out w/ one once (and the conversation wasn't going well) and he started trying to sell himself by using Se...such as "girls like to be protected.I can protect you. If someone pinched your ass I would beat him up." This was during dinner...lol....and said w/o an ounce of kidding around. I was so uncomfortable...though I'm sure an INFp would have been like *swooon*. I was more like uh...luckily I don't live in the ghetto anymore and I've never had someone pinch my ass so I'm good, but thanks for the offer....
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Tbh, that would really bother me. I don't like surprises, I don't like someone disrespecting the boundaries I set, and I really don't like someone being confident in how far they can go with me. God, I'd probably react badly to something like that. “What made you think it was okay to do that??” And oh god, if he said it was because he could tell I wanted it—“I could read it in your body language”—or something… holyshit. I would be so pissed. lol.
lol But it's a game, all a game. Things aren't that black and white for me. And I'm not saying it was all a big manipulative scheme on my part. Not at all! It's just that sometimes I need someone like that to help me decide I actually did want it all along. My "no" could mean I lack assertiveness or I'm over-thinking the consequences or whatever, so thank God for someone taking over and making shit happen! The point is that he did know I wanted it and that I needed him to act that way and he did.

I'm not saying I would let anybody walk up to me and stick their tongue down my throat! lol

But I do see how that wouldn't work for some people, Allie.
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I wouldn't mind it at all. I probably would not be dancing with somebody whom I didn't want to kiss me in the first place.
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I agree. I've never needed to slap a guy so far, but in that situation, I just might.

However, the couple of ESTps I've gone out w/ were really respectful and I never had a problem. I went out w/ one once (and the conversation wasn't going well) and he started trying to sell himself by using Se...such as "girls like to be protected.I can protect you. If someone pinched your ass I would beat him up." This was during dinner...lol....and said w/o an ounce of kidding around. I was so uncomfortable...though I'm sure an INFp would have been like *swooon*. I was more like uh...luckily I don't live in the ghetto anymore and I've never had someone pinch my ass so I'm good, but thanks for the offer....
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I wouldn't mind it at all. I probably would not be dancing with somebody whom I didn't want to kiss me in the first place.
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