Hmm...I was thinking about this scenario, and yeah it seems really asshole-ish on paper. But then I realized that, at least from how I'd experience it, it's kind of a two-tiered checkpoint thing. If the feelings/instinct of the moment (which I'm not sure could actually be captured on paper at all) were right, I'd probably melt too, even if technically it was my direct input seemingly disregarded. If I didn't have feelings for the person, of course I'd hate it and it wouldn't "clear" to the next perception in me.
But if I did have feelings, it'd kind of be neutralized as a non-issue at the next "checkpoint"? And clearing THAT would probably intensify my feelings for the person, if I felt that they went ahead and did it because they understood what I couldn't say. (Talking about stuff like this in real life is way too blush/stammer/generally acting like a social retard-inducing.) And that's why it's not a game--it's just how I AM.
It just reminds me a whole lot of the couple real life courtships I've been in, especially my first. I was a freshman in high school, and basically was unconvinced the guy could possibly be interested in me. (He was an ES??-- an Eagle Scout/eventual Drum Major/football player and wrestler, but also a goofball.) I tip-toed around him a lot, with my friend saying he was interested in me and me not believing her, and her telling me I should ask him to the girls' choice dance and me being unwilling to. Eventually after a ton of assurance/nagging from her I did, he said yes. Our first kiss and whatnot was kind of similar--taking me by surprise (though I hadn't said it was too fast or anything, it just kind of happened immediately after he paid me a compliment and I spun my head to look at him.)
My online courtships have had an entirely different feel, since even if I will hesitate I'm more likely to initiate in this sphere...
Hope I didn't ninja-jack/butt in too much. Just kind of get what you're saying, I think.
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