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Originally Posted by Sirena
Nah, it doesn't work that way. It isn't as simple as action 1 leads to action 2. Come on! That would bore SLEs in 2 seconds. On the contrary, there is so much dynamic to it that makes it so fun, intriguing and exciting. We can be rather enigmatic and alluring, just naturally (meaning that it's not a purposeful "manipulation"). We dictate as much if not more because we hold the emotional thermostat. Don't think we just stand there the whole night like doormats lol. There are lots of signals going on, but they're all unspoken and dynamic. This is probably Fe vs. Fi valuing.
Again, I'd like to stress this isn't a conscious thing. I know some people don't get it and are probably going to get a completely twisted picture of what I'm trying to describe and picture us as black widow spiders or something lol.
Eh, I'm always disappointment with the product of my trying to explain what I'm thinking/feeling.  I can never quite capture it. Oh well. |
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Originally Posted by Sirena
I can't believe this is what you guys got from that. *sigh* Because that's so not it. Again, not doormats! 
Anyway, I'm tired.... |
No, I get what you mean. I just don't like it. I don't want someone going off of assumed, non-verbal cues. I don't really see the point in making a game out of it.
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Originally Posted by jewels
OMG LOL!! I've never heard of the coffee=sex mentality, but it sounds like it could be a new online dating site....coffeeEqualsSex.com "where that latte means he's taking you home latter..."
I mean, if he buys you a mocha, really, what else could you expect?
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Ahaha, it's so common though:
BBC - The Editors: Guaranteed to divide
Coffee’ doesn’t mean coffee! ‘Coffee’ means sex! Café Crem
I think it's the same thing with prom. You know how it's like a common expectation for girls to “put out” on prom night? Ew, lol. “I bought you a corsage, do I get laid now??”