Originally Posted by calenwen

Talking about it is what kills me. He actually asked if it was too soon and then went on and kissed her anyway? I would be pissed if he did that, but why even ask if you're going to do it anyway - it just makes it even worse, like you're openly contradicting the other person's wishes.

I always know if I want it or not too and if I don't I have no problem saying so. I know girls that have ended up dating guys just because the guy was kind of sneaky about it and the girl was too passive to make much of a fuss out of it. Ugh, there seems to be this whole mentality about "getting girls" that certain guys have and I just absolutely hate it and will have nothing to do with it. Sirena's story just reminded me of guys that are like that I guess.

Originally Posted by Allie

Yeah, there was something else annoying about it that I couldn't quite pinpoint and this is it. It feels like such a sloppy relationship too, hah. He asks, “Are we going too fast?” She says yes. Then he speeds it up and she allows it? She admits she wanted it anyway? He knew all along? I don't know, something about it bothers me.


I can't imagine “passively” dating someone. Is there also “passive” attraction and “passive” feelings to go with it? God, I don't get that. I can't be in relationships that I'm not emotionally committed to.